Is That the Whir of Helicopter Blades? On Lavish Maternal Love vs. Overbearing Control

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I had dinner the other night with my play group/moms’ group/book group. We are a bunch of late 30s to early 50s moms who met at a local community center when we each had our first child, 13 years ago. We spent years gathering on Friday mornings at each others’ homes for bagels, coffee, and [Read More...]

[Me & My Naturopath] Why I’m a Hopeful Skeptic

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Fed up with my increasing impairment due to chronic pain, I went to see a naturopath last week. I left her office with plans and recommendations for a five-pronged approach to lessening my pain, and increasing my strength and function: 1. Weekly acupuncture 2. Regular yoga practice 3. An anti-inflammatory diet (such as this one). [Read More...]

Remembering Gordon Cosby

Word came to me this morning that Gordon Cosby, who founded the D.C.-based Church of the Saviour in the 194os with his wife Mary, has died at age 95. The Church of the Saviour was the first Christian community I found that took both Jesus and social justice seriously, emphasizing both the “inward journey” (prayer, [Read More...]

Lonely People in Basements with Guns (& Why They Matter Too)

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From all the fraught conversations I witnessed or participated in after the Sandy Hook shooting on December 14, 2012, I keep recalling one line: I wish these guys [mentally unstable people with guns] would go back to shooting themselves in basements, instead of taking a bunch of other people with them. The shooting at Sandy [Read More...]

Living Well with More: Learning to Love (or at Least Accept) My Kids’ Stuff

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Graham Hill’s op ed about living well with less in last Sunday’s New York Times started like this: I LIVE in a 420-square-foot studio. I sleep in a bed that folds down from the wall. I have six dress shirts. I have 10 shallow bowls that I use for salads and main dishes. When people [Read More...]

Taboo Stories About Disability: What We’re Not Allowed to Say

Last week’s New York Times featured a story about Joshua Miele, who at the age of four in 1973, answered the door of his Brooklyn home to a man he recognized as a neighbor. The man, for no reason other than his disordered thinking due to mental illness, threw acid into the boy’s face. A [Read More...]

When Conflicting Stories Are Both True: Illness, Identity, and the Tales We Tell of Living with Disability

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In his vast and gripping book, Far from the Tree: Parents, Children, and the Search for Identity, journalist Andrew Solomon discusses the two narratives that we use when we talk about life with disability in general, and/or with particular conditions, such as dwarfism, deafness, Down syndrome, autism, or my own genetic disorder, osteogenesis imperfecta (OI). [Read More...]

Bless Those Who Curse You (& Don’t Call Them Eugenicists, Moral Monsters, or Murderers)

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A friend recently sent me an article written by an Australian man who has the same bone disorder I do (osteogenesis imperfecta, or OI). Writing for the Christian journal First Things, Philip C. Burcham tells a compelling story of his family’s OI history. Seeking promising new treatments for his daughter, who inherited OI from him, [Read More...]

How the Story of a Surrogate, Expectant Parents, and a Baby Reveals the Pitfalls of Repro Tech

Fundamentally, it is simply a sad story, one that took place just a few miles from where I live, in the hospital where I gave birth to two of my own babies. As CNN reports, Connecticut resident Crystal Kelley agreed to carry a baby for a couple who had three children and wanted a fourth. [Read More...]

The Dangers of “Solutionism” Applied to Our Always Less-than-Perfect Children

In the New York Times Sunday Review yesterday, Evgeny Morosov defines “solutionism” as “an intellectual pathology that recognizes problems as problems based on just one criterion: whether they are ‘solvable’ with a nice and clean technological solution at our disposal.” Observing that “Silicon Valley’s technophilic gurus and futurists have embarked on a quest to develop [Read More...]

Adam McHugh’s Meditation on Life, Death, and His Hospice Work

Good morning friends. I will be back with some original stuff of my very own next week. I’d like to end this week with one more link to a colleague’s post. I first got to know Adam McHugh (as much as one can get to know someone solely through Facebook, blogging, and emails) because of [Read More...]

Mourning Clothes: A New Retro Clothing Trend?

One of the best things about having very talented writing colleagues and friends is that when I’m taking a few days of from posting original content here, I can always find great material to which to link. As I continue to take this week to work on other projects, here’s another gem for you to [Read More...]


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