Big Gifts of a Small Life: Meeting God in Sticky Floors, Carpools, & the Needy People I Call My Own

We must believe that it’s necessary to go on with small acts of daily care even as the world seems to spin out of control. [Read more...]

Suspicions Confirmed: Local Volunteer Does Not, In Fact, Have a Life

I’ve been on a wonderful family vacation and recovering from the whirlwind end of the school year. I’ll be back to regular blog posting next week. In the meantime, I had the opportunity to report on this bizarre news story. Enjoy.  West Suburbia, Conn.—In a shocking revelation, Lila Dougherty, who for years successfully masqueraded as a [Read More...]

On a Difficult Anniversary, Making Room for the Better Stories


I will always remember that terrible June day in 2009. But I’ve reached a point now where I can breathe a little easier than I used to. I can think of all the other stories I can tell about my girl, and that she can tell about herself, stories that matter just as much as the story of her accident, if not more. [Read more...]

“Why don’t you just adopt?” is the wrong question to ask infertile couples. Here’s why.

Besides making people feel defensive for experiencing the fundamentally human urge to conceive and bear a child (a defensiveness that makes helpful conversation difficult), the question “Why don’t you just adopt?” glosses over some important truths about adoption. [Read more...]

Natural Family Planning Isn’t the Only Ethical Option for Christians: Why I Chose an IUD

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As I cradled my third newborn in his first hours of life, I was seized by a single, overwhelming thought: Never again. I could not possibly have another baby. My “never again” was more than a wearily satisfied observation that our family now felt complete. My “never again” was a desperate plea, tinged with panic, [Read More...]

The Perfect Pair of Boots and the Essential Work of Parenting

I wonder if, as our children grow and their increasingly complicated needs outgrow our capacities to easily meet them, the physical care we offer actually becomes more important, not less. We love people by engaging in basic acts of care for them. That is the essential, sometimes undervalued, foundation of parental love. It’s also the essential foundation of Christian love. [Read more...]

How Much is Too Much for Holiday Giving to Kids?

Three perspectives on why holiday gifts and giving traditions need to be thoughtful, meaningful, and tweaked in a way that makes sense for the particular blend of personalities and histories that make up our unique families. [Read more...]

On Three-Parent IVF and the Act of Begetting

Every few months, a story pops up about a new frontier in reproductive medical technologies: so-called “three-parent IVF.” NPR recently reported on efforts in Britain to allow embryos created via this technique to be transferred into women’s uteruses, while a New York Times Magazine cover article last summer focused on whether the Federal  Drug Administration would approve human clinical [Read More...]