One of the many things that drives me insane about the pro-choice movement is that they represent the antithesis of women’s empowerment. No woman wants to kill their baby, but the pro-choice community tells women that might be what they have to do in order live the life they want. It’s not always about want. Sometimes it’s more about need. A woman is told and feels that she can’t survive if she carries the baby — she doesn’t have the money or resources so it’s okay to make this decision.
Of course, they don’t say so in those explicit terms but the overall message is, there’s no need to feel like you can do this. And women feed into this lie, but I’m guessing many never feel at peace with it. When it comes to young women, in particular, the message that they made a mistake, are too young, will not be able to finish college or achieve their dreams with a child, is particularly strong. The idea of adoption is rarely mentioned, though it is an incredible option that will bring joy and blessing to someone else.
A message of empowerment for women — which is usually the tone we want to strike — would tell her that things can be hard but your dreams in life are still achievable. What if we told women, hey — you can do this! You don’t have to end your child’s life to achieve your dreams, you CAN be a mother and have a professional career. You can choose adoption and continue right on living your life on the pathway you were going down, but know that you gave that child a chance to live.
Let’s stop telling women that killing their babies is the fast track to their dream lives. Let’s send a better message, that they are strong and capable and powerful — and that their bodies are incredible enough to create and grow human beings. They can overcome the obstacles that come with an unplanned pregnancy. Let’s remind them in the end they can proud of themselves when their life story includes the line “Nevertheless, she persisted.”
And their babies, who will only be so for just a little while, will thank them for it.