The Joy & Pain of a Broken Empath

Empathy. Many days, it's awful. Being a broken empath? Nearly unbearable. I understand the "gift" of empathy. I understand that those of you who connect with my writing & have encouraged me to *finally* finish my memoir -or any book for that matter- see the spiritual gift of empathy in me. Being able to see & speak into the pain of others is a tremendously beautiful gift God has graciously allowed me to have to make my sista-frans & beautiful brothas a bit more at home in a world full of rejection. But. Empathy is the taking on of others pain. And I am a "high empath." Which means I'm feeling another's pain *almost* as if it were my own. If I'm closely connected to someone who's pain is unleashed in irresponsible ways, I am literally absorbing toxicity much like the dude on the 1st season of Heroes who absorbed others powers after he killed them, except I don't kill people so there's that. I digress.Yesterday I had a safe space conversation in which I ran through … [Read more...]

Rescue, Healing & Orphans

Eager to welcome a beautiful soul today, Kristi Scott whom I "met" through Twitter & the #FMFparty community.  Besides looking a little like my sister, I feel drawn to the beauty of this sweet soul, so passionate & lovely.  Her post is part of a series of guests post over the next couple of months on the theme of Genesis 50:20, What you meant for evil, God meant for good.  This passage in particular stuck out to me a few weeks ago in a marriage class the hubz & I have been attending.  It’s a complex idea worth exploring, especially when ‘ish is hard!  Since I recently decided to put a little more focus into editing my memoir, it seemed a good time to invite my fellow writers to help explore this issue here, while I explore it in my book.  I hope and pray the series will lead to an exploration of the redemption happening in your own life.  Amen & Amen.////I was a wide-eyed, idealistic 23-year-old woman when I decided to uproot my new post-college life and move to … [Read more...]

Jesus, stripping, blow jobs and Gospel Music

I'm back y'all!  I can't wait to share more of what this little 6 week break has done for my tender bloggy heart, but I am definitely not going anywhere.  For now, I'm guest posting over at my friend Micah's blog, Redemption Pictures.  Today, I'm sharing my own picture of redemption.  More like a glimpse actually on some things I've never shared before. (ay ay ay) Hope it's an encouragement to you because there is always redemption available for you & I.  Always.  See you there?****[Image Credit]I was on my way home from a day of court in Downtown Detroit. It was 1995. I was 18.I had been in court for a family thing. Those were the worst court days. I’d rather have been in court for something I did, than face the fact that everyone in my family seemed to be a screw-up.  It wasn’t just that.  It’s that I didn’t want to keep facing the ongoing legal battles my family members seemed to be facing, the ones I was consistently snatched into.   It meant something for me for to be e … [Read more...]