The Joy & Pain of a Broken Empath

Empathy. Many days, it's awful. Being a broken empath? Nearly unbearable. I understand the "gift" of empathy. I understand that those of you who connect with my writing & have encouraged me to *finally* finish my memoir -or any book for that matter- see the spiritual gift of empathy in me. Being able to see & speak into the pain of others is a tremendously beautiful gift God has graciously allowed me to have to make my sista-frans & beautiful brothas a bit more at home in a world full of rejection. But. Empathy is the taking on of others pain. And I am a "high empath." Which means I'm feeling another's pain *almost* as if it were my own. If I'm closely connected to someone who's pain is unleashed in irresponsible ways, I am literally absorbing toxicity much like the dude on the 1st season of Heroes who absorbed others powers after he killed them, except I don't kill people so there's that. I digress.Yesterday I had a safe space conversation in which I ran through … [Read more...]

Respect Your Story

I'm honored to welcome Minister Ken Pettigrew to my blog in his second guest post here.  Ken is a gifted man of God with a heart of gold.  He's a man of passion and an amazing thinker.  He's given us a beautiful gift of vulnerability in this post. (Thank you so much, Ken)! This is a brotha to respect.  His post today is kicking off a series of guests post over the next couple of months on the theme of Genesis 50:20, What you meant for evil, God meant for good.  This passage in particular stuck out to me a few weeks ago in a marriage class the hubz & I have been attending.  It's a complex idea worth exploring, especially when 'ish is hard!  Since I decided recently to put a little more focus into editing my 100,000 word BEHEMOTH of a memoir, it seemed a good time to invite my fellow writers to help explore this issue here, while I explore it in my book.I hope and pray the series will lead to an exploration of the redemption happening in your own life.  Amen & Amen. … [Read more...]