The Joy & Pain of a Broken Empath

Empathy. Many days, it's awful. Being a broken empath? Nearly unbearable. I understand the "gift" of empathy. I understand that those of you who connect with my writing & have encouraged me to *finally* finish my memoir -or any book for that matter- see the spiritual gift of empathy in me. Being able to see & speak into the pain of others is a tremendously beautiful gift God has graciously allowed me to have to make my sista-frans & beautiful brothas a bit more at home in a world full of rejection. But. Empathy is the taking on of others pain. And I am a "high empath." Which means I'm feeling another's pain *almost* as if it were my own. If I'm closely connected to someone who's pain is unleashed in irresponsible ways, I am literally absorbing toxicity much like the dude on the 1st season of Heroes who absorbed others powers after he killed them, except I don't kill people so there's that. I digress.Yesterday I had a safe space conversation in which I ran through … [Read more...]

The Spirit of Detroit and all the rest for you, Netizen

netizen |ˈnetəzən|nouna user of the Internet, esp. a habitual or avid one.////1. My HOMEY, Micah talking about how he changed his mind regarding the "evils" of Black Friday inspired a great deal by this post explaining the upsides of Black Friday.  Love.2. The black musician who befriends KKK members & keeps their white linens after they give up their hate.  He's a better human than me.3. An article about how a black college student was tortured in his dorm room at college but also how blacks aren't safe anywhere.  I resonate deeply with this post. I've been a hot mess of fear and anger later regarding my African-American heritage.4. Natural hair wearer?  Here's a helpful list of how to care for your hair during the winter.5. A POWERFUL ad campaign by Amnesty International showing the awful consequences of war and violence.6. Has urban ministry become a new symbol for the Church?  Well, dang.  Well thought post by Osheta Moore.As I mentioned in my l … [Read more...]

Why I Will Not Apologize for Pretty nor Beautiful nor Ratchet.

**Written about 6 weeks ago before I started working full-time again***The other day I was getting ready to go out.  I'd bothered to put on makeup, did my hair and even threw on accessories.Since I've been unemployed for a few months, I'm living in pj's or sweats, keep my head in a rag and haven't touched the likes of my make up bag except on the rarest of occasions. I never wear any jewelry -not even my wedding ring- unless I'm leaving the house & the whole package is done.  Otherwise, if I MUST dress to fit into this society of mine which turns it's nose up at black women in a head rag who look poor while grocery shopping I'll still put the least amount of effort -no watch, no ring, no hair, no makeup, no matching, no nothing.  I'm a "clean" palette as they say.Well, I've been a (dirty) clean palette of sorts for 2 months now and I believe my kids forgot what a gussied up version of their Mama even looks like.  It didn't surprise me much that after making a significant e … [Read more...]

I Need My Blog To Be Different, Pt. 1

Yo yo yiggity yo!  I am back from my 6 wk. self-imposed blogging hiatus of sorts.  If I hadn't taken that time I was going to implode with ALL the frustrations.  So.  How did it go?Let's just say that first week was flipping ridick.  I had NO idea how addicted I was.  Once I deleted the Instagram, Twitter & FB apps from my phone I did better but could oft be found sneaking around stealing others' devices to get my fix.  However, I put my proverbial foot down on blog posting until that 6 wk. mark.  I knew it was too important.In the last couple of years I've said goodbye to 2 (great) jobs and 2 (lovely) people who were not good for me. I've learned this: sometimes it's amazingly healthy to let go of something that may be a bit off kilter even it's something (or someone) good -even lovely- and declare "HEY, REMEMBER I DON'T FREAKING NEED YOU TO SURVIVE."  And then you survive, maybe you even thrive.  In these last 6 weeks I've DECLARED MY FREEDOM.  I struggled with facebook, a … [Read more...]

For You, Netizen – Black History Month, Beyonce’, underpants on head. what a week.

netizen |ˈnetəzən|nouna user of the Internet, esp. a habitual or avid one.~In celebration of Black History Month...A picture is certainly worth a thousand words. What better way to celebrate Black History Month than by taking a moment to acknowledge the snapshots of time that represent the struggle and triumph of African-Americans through the years?As part of our Black History Month coverage, we will be featuring one photo a day that honors years of groundbreaking achievements within the black community. These photos bring tears to our eyes, instill pride in our hearts and motivate us to carry on the legacy of strength and perseverance.From Huff Post Black Voices: Photo of the Day~The one that reminds me of how we have come...On this day, as we continue our Black History Month celebrations, we remember Delano Middleton, Sam Hammond, and Henry Smith. Their sacrifice lives on as an important reminder of how long and winding the road to … [Read more...]

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