Is “Vocational Discernment” Just a Fancy Term for Navel-Gazing?

A Gay and Catholic extra post!For a lot of people I think the language of vocation, and specifically the language of discerning one's vocation, offers hope. It makes the future, which for gay Christians especially can easily seem like a giant scary blank, seem more like an adventure through a realm full of possibilities.But for others this language seems to add pressure rather than relieving it. "In my day we didn't *~*discern our vocation*~*. We just took care of people!" Or, "I'm okay … [Read more...]

Gay Catholic Book Extras: When the Going Gets Weird, The Weird Get Spiritual Direction

(Preorder the book!)In my post on celibate partnerships I noted that "the more unusual your vocation, the more actively you should seek out spiritual guidance from an outside party." But of course there's a catch-22 here: The weirder your vocation, the more you need spiritual direction; and the weirder your vocation, the harder good direction is to find. In both my book and the partnerships post I spoke mostly to the person seeking direction. In this post I'll try to speak mostly to people … [Read more...]

Book Extras: Song for a Future Generation

At the end of the book I point out that we can't predict all the ways that welcoming gay/queer/same-sex attracted Christians will change our churches. In both the book and "Coming Out Christian" I talk about some of the ways I hope the increasing visibility and inclusion of gay Christians will change the churches--and our whole culture--but this is not something you or I control. I doubt that the nascent g/q/ssa Christian communities will agree on all these changes; I fully expect to end my days … [Read more...]

Celibacy in Partnership: Notes for a Chapter I Wish I’d Included

in my great big gay Catholic book. (Preorder it here or here!)First of all, a caveat. I didn't include a chapter on celibate partnerships (i.e. people who conceive of their vocations together in those terms, rather than in terms of devoted or spiritual friendship--I have a bunch of chapters on friendships which go beyond the modern "just friends" model) partly because I didn't think I understood it very well. I still don't! I'd appreciate your thoughts on all of these "dvd extras" posts, but … [Read more...]

The Anima Christi: A Deleted Chapter from My Great Big Gay Catholic Book

I had to cut a lot from the book, and this chapter was eccentric and zigzagging enough that it made sense to get rid of it. But I'm glad to share it with you guys now. Some of these thoughts will be familiar to readers--and some of them get recycled in the book itself, e.g. "Will I be gay in Heaven?", because I thought that stuff was important to keep in--but I hope there's enough new material to keep y'all interested.The full list of DVD extras I hope to provide between now and the book's … [Read more...]

Book Extras: The “Gay and Catholic” Drinking Game

Because if it weren't for bad taste, I'd have no taste at all.First, preorder my book! Then read it, I guess, if you have to. While you're reading, play along.Rule #1: Drink what I drink. If I had to suffer through Olde English--let alone vodka and chocolate milk--so should you.Rule #2 and ff: Take a shot: every time I emphasize that there are lots of different ways to be gay (/queer <-- see, there it is) and lots of different ways to be Catholic.submission, surrender, ecstasy … [Read more...]

New Series: DVD Extras from My Great Big Gay Catholic Book

Hey people. Did you know I have a book coming out? THAT'S RIGHT. Pre-order that joint.The cool thing about the book is that it's short. That means I left a lot of stuff out. Plus I wrote the book a couple years ago at this point, and my thinking on Gay Catholic Whatnot has continued to evolve. Therefore, to give you all a sense of how I approach issues of faith and sexuality (so you'll buy my awesome book, and/or request it at your local libraries--note that many public libraries do take … [Read more...]


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