"'She would of been a good woman,' The Misfit said, 'if it had been somebody there to shoot her every minute of her life.'" --Flannery O'Connor, "A Good Man Is Hard to Find" … [Read more...]


HORROR BITES: Below, you'll find five short-ish posts about same-sex marriage, of which I think "Heather Has No Daddy" is the most important. You'll also find a blogwatch with some comments about superhero-comic conventions. Now I'm going to blog some random comments on horror that didn't make it into my big "Rene Magritte, Master of Horror" post below.The Old Oligarch and I talked about this quite a bit while I was working on the Magritte post. His comments included the idea that horror is … [Read more...]


SSM: THE GAY RUSSIANS LOVE THEIR CHILDREN TOO: Final same-sex marriage post for today. Another quick take on Unqualified Offerings. (I know I'm only addressing bits and bobs of his arguments. I promise, as this series goes on I'll wrestle with lots of 'em, not just a few.)UO writes, "I've probably got more to say about gender roles later, but a brief thought for now: From what I can tell, gays love their kids too. So if it becomes widely accepted that straight children of gay parents have … [Read more...]


SSM: HMMMMM.... Unqualified Offerings makes an interesting point: "The next problem may strike some as minor: [the argument that male/male couples' often laxer standards of sexual fidelity will spill over into heterosexual couples] depends on straight men (in marriages) observing the behavior of gay men (in marriages) and wanting to emulate gay men. That is, the theory assumes that in this matter straight men will adopt a completely different stance toward gay men than they do in almost every … [Read more...]


SSM: SAPPHISTRY AND SOPHISTRY. Okay, that title's a bit harsh, but it is kind of funny how every time you talk about same-sex marriage somebody says, "But lesbians are supermonogamous! Shouldn't you be encouraging them to marry?" For some people this is just a cheapie, for a few people it's a real question; for many, I think, it's somewhere in between. Let me teethe on it for a bit.1) Lesbian marriage makes men optional extras in marriage and family formation. So much more on that here, and a … [Read more...]


SSM: HEATHER HAS NO DADDY: I neglected an important angle in my post on same-sex marriage and masculinity, another way in which same-sex (unisex) marriage tells men that they're not necessary to forming a family. I'm referring, as the title of this post should make clear, to lesbian couples raising kids.Lots of these couples are dedicated parents. But they're also raising kids in a family structure that a) makes it harder for both daughters and sons to form a sense of what it means to be a man … [Read more...]


SSM: QUICK HITS. Dappled Things, while saying several nice things about the series so far (thanks!), writes, "Her observations about male gender are very interesting, but I found less than convincing the argument that once getting married ceases to be a thing that proves masculinity, then men will gradually lose interest in it. It's one thing to say that once we let girls be altar boys, all the boys will drop out. To make a similar argument about something as ingrained in the human race as … [Read more...]