From “Infinite Jest”

Arm out like a hack's arm, Gately blasts through B.U. country. As in backpack and personal-stereo and designer-fatigues country. Soft-faced boys with backpacks and high hard hair and seamless foreheads. Totally lineless untroubled foreheads like cream cheese or ironed sheets. All the storefronts here are for clothes or TP cartridges or posters. Gately's had lines in his big forehead since he was about twelve. It's here he especially likes making people throw their packages in the air and dive … [Read more...]

Captive Virgins: St Gregory of Nyssa vs. … Well… Vs. Me, I Guess

and let's see what that title does for my search requests.Wesley Hill truffled up a really fine short article on Gregory of Nyssa's "On Virginity," which offers a much-needed corrective to the way I usually talk about vocations for celibate queer people. Here's an excerpt, but the whole thing is worth your time: ...Adults are single in greater numbers than ever before, but the singles who usually speak in public discussions are sexually active. Why is it that Christian adults who are single … [Read more...]

The Prison of My Person, The Shackles of My Skin

Wesley Hill quotes some powerful words from CS Lewis on masturbation and lustful fantasy: For me the real evil of masturbation would be that it takes an appetite which, in lawful use, leads the individual out of himself to complete (and correct) his own personality in that of another (and finally in children and even grandchildren) and turns it back: sends the man back into the prison of himself, there to keep a harem of imaginary brides. And this harem, once admitted, works against hisĀ ever … [Read more...]

From Christopher R. Beha, “What Happened to Sophie Wilder”

Sometimes too we spoke about our classes, but only to disparage them."They wanted to talk about what we learned from Keats," Sophie said. "It's like asking what you learned from getting laid. I learned that I like how he makes me feel." (yes, I'm reading it) … [Read more...]

This Mockingbird Article About Sex and Internet Porn

quotes literally all of the good bits of the Alain de Botton piece it's riffing on; dodges de Botton's more banal or wrongheaded generalizations (AdB writes as if internet porn is a male problem not a human problem, and says sex can get in the way of "other things we care about, like prosperity, safety, and happiness," which is a list of three things I don't care about all that much); and adds some gentleness of its own. You should read it! But I will give you a quick teaser of the AdB piece … [Read more...]

Hope Stumbles Eternal: “Frances Ha”

The director of The Squid and the Whale made a movie with the star of Damsels in Distress, and it's about friendship between women, forgiveness, and coming to terms with your life. Ordinarily this is the kind of sentence I end with, "...and then I woke up." But no! Frances Ha is real, it's in DC at E St Cinema and Bethesda Row, and it is a really good, small slice-of-life movie. I don't know that it's earthshaking but it is about two hours of Greta Gerwig being thoroughly luminous, with her big … [Read more...]

“The End of Premarital Sex”

The next installment in my marriage-and-family books series for Acculturated. … [Read more...]


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