“Gay & Celibate”: Pittsburgh Post-Gazette

profile mostly of Wesley Hill, w/some commentary from others: Wesley Hill is convinced that taking a road less traveled doesn’t have to be a lonely journey.Mr. Hill, a professor at Trinity School for Ministry in Ambridge, and a small corps of other writers around the country have churned out a small library of books and blog posts, united in a single premise.They believe gay Christians can and should affirm their sexual orientation — but should also commit to celibacy.The stance runs … [Read more...]

“Friendship with a Future Tense”: I review Wesley Hill’s great new book

for AmCon: Most of the art and literature of friendship is elegiac. From Montaigne to Marsden Hartley, from St. Aelred to Andrew Sullivan, from elegant tribute to anguished lament, our art of friendship is haunted by the death of friends. ...Part of what makes my friend Wesley Hill’s slender new book so intriguing is that it is an attempt to give an account of friendship that is grounded in history, theology, and literature—yet forward-looking. Spiritual Friendship: Finding Love in the Chu … [Read more...]

“Detachment in Friendship”: I’m at Spiritual Friendship

with a small post: A while ago I was talking to my spiritual director about some anxieties I was feeling in one of my friendships. This was a close friendship which had been tested by time (and by my own idiocy) but I was still having a hard time trusting that it would endure, and coping with the changes that were occurring in the friendship.My spiritual director nodded and said, “It sounds like you’re ‘attached’ to this friend, in the sense that you’re relying on the friendship for your wel … [Read more...]

“No Marriage Is an Island”: I’m at AmCon

riffing on the relevance of a book about gay celibacy for people who are neither gay nor celibate: ...Hill explores how our cultural expectations affect people who, for whatever reason, don’t expect to marry or have kids. How do we give and receive love? How do we lead lives which are fruitful and not just lonely expanses of time-before-death? So often gay people in the “traditional” (for lack of a better word) churches receive no hint that we, too, have vocations—that we, too, are called to lov … [Read more...]

Two Links About Wesley Hill’s Fabulous New Book “Spiritual Friendship”

Oh so much more on this book from me coming soon!First, Wes is interviewed by Jonathan Merritt for RNS: RNS: Let’s start with the foundation. How do you define friendship in a sentence or two?WH: According to Christian writers of the past, spiritual or Christ-centered friendship—the kind of friendship I’m writing about—is a bond between two (or more) people who feel affection for each other. But it’s also a bond that has a trajectory. It’s a relationship that’s about helping one another … [Read more...]

“Metaphors of Brotherhood and Sisterhood”: I’m at Spiritual Friendship

with a short post: This is just a quick post to note that we don’t use sibling metaphors a lot on this site, and maybe we should. They played an important role in articulating the meaning of vowed friendship in both Eastern and Western Christianity (the terms adelphopoeisis and “wedded brotherhood” both use this metaphor) and they reflect an understanding of friendship as a form of kinship.Wesley Hill quotes me talking about the way that certain friendships, over time, take on the quality of … [Read more...]

“What’s Hiding Behind Our Identity (Politics)?”: I’m at AmCon

having massive esprit d'escalier about this piece, but it does some good stuff I think: ...And so I wonder, when I see the multiplication of identity-politics terms and initials—LGBTQIAABBQLOL and all that—what might be hidden in these terms. Right now our discourse around the spread of identity labeling mostly takes place entirely on the labels’ own terms: Are asexuals “really” queer, or do they just have victimization envy? Is “demisexual” even a thing, or is this just how people who don’t lik … [Read more...]


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