“Being Single Shouldn’t Mean Being Alone”: I’m in the Washington Post

doin' my thing: If you saw Pixar’s “Inside Out,” you may remember the charming short cartoon that played before the film. “Lava” features a shaggy old volcano in the middle of the ocean. He’s surrounded by happy couples: Two gulls arc overhead, two fish leap in the water. But he sings miserably all day about how he longs for “someone to lava.”In despair he sinks to the ocean floor — but lo! A lady volcano (a much younger and more attractive peak than he is, I’m just saying) bursts forth and … [Read more...]

A Friend in Need: “Creep”

Shortly after I submitted my 2015 horror round-up aka every Halloween is self-parody Halloween, I found myself thinking, You know, maybe I only think contemporary indie horror doesn't do enough male vulnerability because I still haven't seen Creep.Now I've seen Creep and boy howdy, I was right.This is a truly skin-crawly, high-tension film about the increasingly uncomfortable relationship between Josef and the younger man, Aaron, whom he hires to film him for a day. We know the title of … [Read more...]

“Married, With Roommates: Why My Wife and I Choose to Live in a Group House”: Vox

voxes: ...Once we saved up enough money to buy a house of our own in Washington, DC's Petworth neighborhood, we deliberately chose a place in which we would always have room for housemates, even if we had kids in the future. As soon as we closed on our house, our first purchase was a long dining room table that could accommodate our group dinners.For us, living in a group house was not a phase to grow out of but a lifestyle choice that valued people over privacy. Sure, we lose certain … [Read more...]

Prepare for Life in Post-Christian America: Play “After Virtue”–The Game!

or, my review of Winners and Losers: “Winners and Losers,” created by Marcus Youssef and James Long and playing at Washington’s Woolly Mammoth Theatre Company through November 22, is a tense and springy 100 minutes of aggression hidden under friendship–and vice versa. Youssef and Long act out their own longstanding, competitive friendship, getting rawer and more accusatory as the night wears on. I’m going to use “Marcus” for the guy I saw onstage, “Youssef” for the off-stage creator, but the two … [Read more...]

“Reflections on the Feast of St Francis”: Ron Belgau

on a great saint (and a great hagiography):G. K. Chesterton’s biography of St. Francis was one of many books that helped introduce me to the truth and beauty of the Catholic faith. But Francis himself stuck with me in a special way. I was particularly drawn by the powerful combination of joy and asceticism in his personality. Asceticism was not new to me. I had grown up Southern Baptist, and joined the Presbyterian Church in America in college. I had been profoundly moved by Bonhoeffer’s Co … [Read more...]

“Gay Catholics and Spiritual Friendship”: Catholic News Service

video, with me & Ron Belgau: … [Read more...]

“Married or Not, All Families Deserve Equal Benefits”: WaPo

I would frame this in terms of supporting caregiving--framing things in terms of "equality" just encourages people to judge the depth of others' relationships in the abstract (are boyfriends and husbands really equal?), instead of asking whether caregiving and sacrificial love are really taking place. Still, this makes an important point: Both government and the private sector can do more. Only three states have paid family leave laws, and only California’s law covers care for siblings, gran … [Read more...]