The Opposite of Anti-Gay Discrimination: What I Said at Steubenville

Hi y'all. Last week I had the chance to speak at the terrific BookMarx bookstore in Steubenville, OH. ("I'm here to do a job, I won't buy anything. ...I'll just buy like one or two very slender books." Walked out with a stack of sci-fi, Rumer Godden, and Italian epics. Some men, some men....) I'd been asked to speak on "unjust discrimination" against gay people, a term which comes from the Catechism. This is roughly what I said.I started by describing life in a bifurcated culture, where lots … [Read more...]

“What’s Hiding Behind Our Identity (Politics)?”: I’m at AmCon

having massive esprit d'escalier about this piece, but it does some good stuff I think: ...And so I wonder, when I see the multiplication of identity-politics terms and initials—LGBTQIAABBQLOL and all that—what might be hidden in these terms. Right now our discourse around the spread of identity labeling mostly takes place entirely on the labels’ own terms: Are asexuals “really” queer, or do they just have victimization envy? Is “demisexual” even a thing, or is this just how people who don’t lik … [Read more...]

“The Self-Defeating Sexualization of Gay and Same-Sex Attracted Christians”: I’m at Spiritual Friendship

yowlin': I’ve written before about how often gay or same-sex attracted people are treated as if the central spiritual and moral issues of our lives are all sexual. For some reason this story strikes me as the most poignant example. But we’re subjected to so many demands that we repeat, “I’m chaste! I’m celibate!” in order to earn an uncertain welcome in the church. more … [Read more...]

OOF! Some Thoughts on the “Owning Our Faith” Video on LGBT Catholic Life

A few people have asked why I decided to participate in "Owning Our Faith," and my thoughts on the trailer for the film. Here you go!1. What's been released is a trailer for a longer film. The filmmakers have told me that my views (and presumably those of the other participants) will be explored more fully in the film itself.2. I pretty much try to always say "yes" when people ask me to appear or speak. It's no secret that I disagree with most (maybe all? I don't actually know) of the … [Read more...]

“Up Close”: Rabbi Ayelet Cohen and Me on The Jewish Channel

interviewalicious!and podcast version etc here … [Read more...]

“Owning Our Faith”: I’m in a Video About LGBT Catholic Life

I did not name this! Also wow, I need a haircut. Anyway you can watch the teaser for a forthcoming longer video here; there will also be things like Scripture references on the website as it expands. … [Read more...]

Beyond Sexual Identity: Not Whether But How

Gay, straight, heterosexual, homosexual: All these terms have a history, all represent the fears and desires of specific cultures and moments, and all will eventually be superseded. In a hundred years I don't think people in their flying cars, with their marriages to toasters, will be calling themselves gay or straight. The conflict over sexuality which has so deeply marked not only personal identity but (tragically) the identities of our churches will be replaced--probably replaced by other … [Read more...]