“To Celibacy!”: Tim Otto

raises a toast to the sorrows:I made a vow, six years ago, to be celibate. The night before the vow I went with friends to a trendy Tapas bar in San Francisco. Next to us a group of frat guys were making loud, boisterous toasts. Their enthusiasm was infectious, and soon we were lifting our glasses with them. At one point my friend, the mischievous Michael, hoisted his glass and bellowed, “To Celibacy!” Everyone lifted their glasses and yelled, “Hear, hear!” and then those at the next table b … [Read more...]

Elizabeth Stoker Bruenig Reviews “Gay and Catholic”

for AmCon. Really like the point about my book being specifically lesbian rather than gay--and it should've been much more lesbian! If I had it to do over I'd do a LOT more research into the history of love between women, e.g. Boston marriages, "romantic friendship." This piece focuses more heavily than the book does on the specific, perhaps outre case of vowed friendships, which I'm presenting as a beautiful possibility grounded in tradition and not some kind of universal Solution to the … [Read more...]

You Do Realize, This Means Waugh: Four Small Thoughts on Gay Catholic Whatnot

If I were clickbaitier these would all have their own very short post. YOU'RE WELCOME. Anyway, various things I thought about while on the road, bookhawkin'.1. Remember my whole "we aren't trying to solve problems; we're trying to replace less-Christian problems with more-Christian problems" shtik? This is relevant to progressive churches because so often their approach to the questions posed by gay people is to say, "Okay, you can get married!" They solve the problem of gay people by … [Read more...]

An Extremely Generous Review of My Book in Commonweal

w/some well-taken criticisms: Eve Tushnet is, as she puts it, “the poster child for a poster nobody wants on their wall.” Raised “somewhere between atheism and Reform Judaism” and moved to convert to Catholicism while a questioning bisexual sophomore at Yale, Tushnet has for the past ten years been the blogosphere’s resident celibate lesbian.As readers of Commonweal and a host of other publications know, she writes with a style that is at once self-deprecating and confident, earnest and wick … [Read more...]

“Gay, Catholic, And Called to Love”: Me and My Oxford Comma Are in the Catholic World Report

interviewin' (bookhawkin'): In her book, Tushnet recounts how during her first week at Yale University, she decided to spend some time “gawking at zoo animals”—i.e., members of a conservative debate society. She reports how she “ended up in a long argument with one of the zoo animals, a Catholic divinity school student.” Through her contact with the debate society and its Catholic members, she came to encounter the Church. Like Pope Francis, those Catholic debaters journeyed to the edges, dialog … [Read more...]

“An Open Conversation on Mixed-Orientation Marriage”

over at Theology in the Raw. Up-front about the suffering they've experienced; also challenging to the churches: We’ve received a lot of well-meaning advice that has turned out to be very harmful, but possibly the worst is to avoid other LGBT people. The assumption and fear is that if Brian befriends another gay man, of course he’ll cheat. While there is wisdom in maintaining some physical, emotional, and relational boundaries, isolating oneself completely is extremely harmful. Brian’s frien … [Read more...]

“Leading with Humility”: Me on Spiritual Direction for Gay Christians

and other people, should they exist: Several months after I'd stopped seeing my first spiritual director because he'd been transferred to a different parish, I saw that he'd be giving a talk on Catholic understandings of homosexuality. Since I knew I wasn't his only gay spiritual directee—in fact, he'd been recommended to me by another gay Catholic who, like me, was trying to live in accordance with Catholic teaching—I was excited to hear his perspective.I ended up sharply disappointed in th … [Read more...]


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