In Defense of Wasting Your Life

Speaking of contradictory truths... I often tell this story when I talk: A couple of years ago I received a poignant email from a man who said, among other things, that he did accept the Church’s teaching and was trying to live up to it. But he still wondered: What happens if I change my mind? What happens if, years from now, I look back on my celibate life—will I regret it? Will it seem like an enormous waste?I think it depends. If one’s celibacy is purely rule-following, then yeah, once yo … [Read more...]

Four Thoughts on Gay Catholic Whatnot

Overall, I loved Level Ground. By the end I was finally tired of yapping about Gay Catholic Whatnot, which I thought would never happen to me!, but it was a chance to meet many terrific people and see a truly extraordinary movie (which I'll write about very soon). I'm slowly winding my way back toward having thoughts and opinions about GCW again; here are four. As always, worth what you paid for them.1. Sins of Omission. So much of the "conservative" Christian world seems terrified of … [Read more...]

In the LA Area? Come See Movies and Also Me!

The Level Ground Film Festival, which explores the intersection of Christian faith and LGBT life, has already started! I will be doing a whole bunch of stuff with them Thursday and Friday: the Dinner Gala on Thursday, where I'm on a panel screening of the film "Desire of the Everlasting Hills" (exploring the lives of monks with same-sex attraction); the Festival of Books on Friday morning, where I will be reading the chapter on vocation from my forthcoming book about Gay Catholic Whatnot (GET … [Read more...]

Blogwatch, With Her Gummy Hands

Some links for a slushy Saturday evening."LGBT Rights and the UN: What the Church Does Not Teach." Powerful."Why Writers Are the Worst Procrastinators." Basically because we've always had it too easy and don't know how to work. I'd heard most of this before and it very much rings true for me--studying Russian has been a fairly brutal confrontation with my own limits, my quick temper and immediate frustration and a whole host of other character defects which are brought out when a task is … [Read more...]

Lots of Really Great Stuff at Spiritual Friendship Now

including: Melinda Selmys on the Cross as gift. This post manages to take a discourse I usually find kind of impenetrable--the argument about whether and how "homosexuality" (STILL NOT A THEOLOGICAL CATEGORY) is a gift--and make it into something truly sublime. I still resist looking at "homosexuality" (is this a thing?) as a "cross" full-stop, but that's really not the point of her post, which you all should read.Jeremy Erickson has some powerful reflections on what he experienced as a … [Read more...]

Five Things for Thursday

What I've been reading."Why Young Sexual Assault Victims Tell Incoherent Stories." When my alarmed parents sat me down to draw out every detail of what had happened, trying to construct a timeline and zeroing in on specific actions and body parts, I was terrified by their seriousness. The conversation was such an important one that we had it sitting right where we were when my sister brought up the subject: on the stairs. It’s hard to give an accurate account of something when you’re under t … [Read more...]

“Making God’s House Into a Home: An Interview w/Spiritual Friendship’s Wesley Hill”

woot! ...I wrote that book when I was in my mid-twenties. Like a lot of people that age, I was wrestling with strong emotions and grappling with deep hopes and fears about the future. My greatest fear was waking up one day in my 60s or 70s, in an apartment by myself, having lived a deeply isolated adult life, without family and people with whom I could make a “home.” Much of that angst has subsided now that I’m in my early 30s, so if I were rewriting Washed and Waiting today, I’d be tempted to w … [Read more...]


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