From today’s readings

for All Souls Day:The souls of the righteous are in the hand of God,and no torment shall touch them. They seemed, in the view of the foolish, to be dead; and their passing away was thought an affliction and their going forth from us, utter destruction. But they are in peace. For if to others, indeed, they seem punished, yet is their hope full of immortality; Chastised a little, they shall be greatly blessed, because God tried themand found them worthy of himself. As gold in … [Read more...]

“To come first for someone”

Another post about questions I got on my speaking tour. One man asked about something a gay friend of his had said, which really resonated with him. I can't remember, unfortunately, if the friend was citing this as a reason to reject celibacy and seek out a gay relationship, or if he was just saying that this longing makes celibacy especially painful, but he said, "I just want to come first for somebody!"There are a lot of pieces to this emotion. To be always the one who watches the love … [Read more...]

From Denise Levertov, “To Live in the Mercy of God”

Such passion— rage or joy?                               Thus, not mild, not temperate, God’s love for the world. Vast flood of mercy                       flung on resistance. … [Read more...]

Confirming all my suspicions: Oscar Wilde edition

The less you care about the Crucifixion, the less I will gain from your reading of Wilde's writing. Period, comma. (Provoked by this book, which is his dissertation I think and therefore much is forgivable, but also Camille Paglia.) … [Read more...]

“A Child’s Garden of Sacrifice”

You should be reading your kids Oscar Wilde. … [Read more...]

The two halves of my message on Gay Catholic Whatnot

It's genuinely hard to say both "Die to self" and "live in Christ," to focus equally strongly on crucifixion and resurrection, submission and liberation. I need to do better at being clear about the sacrifices. I think I'm so focused on making queer, chaste Christian life more viable, fruitful, and loving, that I can sound a bit Pollyannaish. The Gospel is not really sunny-side-up, even though it is a love story which ends with lovers reunited. … [Read more...]

From Jenell Williams Paris, “The End of Sexual Identity”

Celibacy is surely a strenuous spiritual path, but today the cost of celibacy is unreasonably and unnecessarily high. When it comes to moral teachings about sex outside of marriage, we isolate sexual pleasure from all the other good things that are connected to sexual relationships. People are commanded to abstain from sexual and intimacy, but no one addresses how abstention may also limit the person's access to family, touch, children, financial stability and so on. It's hard to be a celibate … [Read more...]