You should be reading your kids Oscar Wilde.
It’s genuinely hard to say both “Die to self” and “live in Christ,” to focus equally strongly on crucifixion and resurrection, submission and liberation. I need to do better at being clear about the sacrifices. I think I’m so focused on making queer, chaste Christian life more viable, fruitful, and loving, that I can sound [...]
Celibacy is surely a strenuous spiritual path, but today the cost of celibacy is unreasonably and unnecessarily high. When it comes to moral teachings about sex outside of marriage, we isolate sexual pleasure from all the other good things that are connected to sexual relationships. People are commanded to abstain from sexual and intimacy, but [...]
The only answer that corresponds to man’s actual existential situation is hope. The virtue of hope is preeminently the virtue of status viatoris; it is the proper virtue of the ‘not yet.’ In the virtue of hope more than in any other, man understands and affirms that he is a creature, that he has been [...]
An addition to the end of my post about Brave: “Surrender” is one way of conceiving of Christian faith and practice; it’s a metaphor. It’s probably the metaphor which speaks most deeply to me. But there are lots of other possible metaphors out there: discovery, spiritual warfare, and liberation, for example. If one metaphor is [...]
…at least not by the one who prays. I like this post on prayer (“Christ in one place, Christ in a diametrically opposed place”), and I like that most of the commenters are posting quotations rather than their own thoughts. It seems apropos. Here’s an old piece I wrote on repetitive prayer. (Title reference.)
this is the guy who wrote the best single book I’ve read on Gay Christian Whatnot. Part one; part two. His answer to the last question in part one is esp on-point.
writes something really worth your time: My first child was conceived out of wedlock. I was, at the time, not only unmarried but also a crystal meth addict. I was not Catholic but some strange combination of agnostic/lapsed Protestant; my boyfriend and the father of my child was a Catholic. Obviously neither he nor I [...]
…The aftermath of our diagnosis was extraordinarily painful for both of us. The diagnosis affected not simply our friendships, our own relationship, but particularly our spiritual lives. If you speak to an infertile couple, committed to the Christian life, you’ll notice a pattern: the sexual infertility gradually seeps into the life of prayer. Each morning, [...]