Probably from “Sculpting in Time: The Great Russian Filmmaker Discusses His Art”

“What is art?,” asked Tarkovsky. “Like a declaration of love: the consciousness of our dependence on each other. A confession. An unconscious act that none the less reflects the true meaning of life—love and sacrifice.” --I found it here … [Read more...]

Advent post: Be prepared to say yes

Let's say that you want to be more generous during this Advent. So you walk outside your door, feeling all resolution-y and tinsel-trimmed, and somebody asks you for money and you say, "Of course!" and then... look in your wallet and all you have is your debit card.This is basically how I live, in more ways than dealing with beggars. It's obviously related to the overpromising thing I already talked about, but the problem here is a little different, and has two aspects. The first is that I … [Read more...]

“How to Write About Sex”

this was the part which struck me: These insights extended to matters of the heart. A couple of years ago, after dating a mutual acquaintance of ours had left me feeling bruised and baffled, I sought Sister’s advice. After hearing my story, she frowned slightly and asked, “Are you sure ________ is even capable of the kind of intimacy you want?” Just recently, the woman was diagnosed with a mild form of Asperger’s Syndrome, which, while not precluding intimacy absolutely, does tend to … [Read more...]


I'm not sure I can think of any father-daughter relationships in books or movies which really remind me of me and my dad. I have only vague memories of Ramona and Her Father, but I super-identified with Ramona in general and I seem to recall that she and her father had somewhat similar personalities? So that's one possible model.But I'm not sure I've seen a lot of fathers, in pop culture or great art or whatever, who remind me of my dad. I've watched him very quietly do good, difficult … [Read more...]