“Infidelity, Love, And the New Shame”: David Zahl

at Mockingbird: Just dove into Aziz Ansari and Eric Klinenberg’s Modern Romance, and have to say, it’s pretty great. Funny yet with a surprising amount of meat on its bones. As mentioned the other day, the book’s primary interest lies in exploring 1. the unspoken cultural imperative to find a ‘soul mate’ and 2. the resulting anxiety, frustration, and confusion that characterizes modern romance. I was particularly struck by how the word ‘soul mate’ has come to serve as a synonym for savior. A wei … [Read more...]

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“Let’s Talk About Monks, Baby”: More of My Dialogue w/Justin Lee on Relationships for Gay Christians

at Respectful Conversations:I loved a lot of things about Justin's first contribution to this discussion. I'm going to give a kind of slantwise rather than head-on response. First I want to highlight the areas where he is modeling the way this conversation should go. Then I do want to suggest a way in which his approach is still too much shaped by contemporary American culture. And finally I will offer a different angle from which to approach the question.more--I don't love how the third … [Read more...]

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A Retraction, Re: Marriage. Too Bad, This Bit Had a Good Line in It.

So in an earlier post I wrote this: It's important that marriage--its norms and expectations, more than its explicit legal benefits--is one powerful cultural response to the fruitful/destructive volcanic force of eros, and especially heterosexual eros. It's important that out of the many cultural institutions that try to channel the lava, marriage is typically one of the gentlest. (That's often true even when a marriage culture is oppressive and misogynist--in those cases the alternatives are … [Read more...]

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Marriage Unconstrained: In Which I Argue with Myself

So I don't know if you noticed, but that Pixar/gay marriage post was really two posts awkwardly yoked together by a cartoon about singing volcanoes. And some of the latter half of the post, especially, made Christian marriage sound like a social-improvement project: Live in mutual self-gift, mirroring the love of Christ and His Bride the Church, because it will lead to a stable bourgeois society. I have these studies showing that surrender of self-will is good for child educational … [Read more...]

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A Few Gay Marriage Links I Like (And One Straight Link About Gay Marriage)

You can hear echoes of these posts in my Lava thing--several of us working similar veins. EDITED! MORE LINKS BELOW!Melinda Selmys, "Five Ways We Can Save Marriage Now":Yesterday I said that we need to move forward with building up the infrastructure to make traditional marriage into a realistic and attractive possibility. Today, I’m going to talk about some very practical things that we can start doing to help make this a reality. In First Things’ Symposium on the SCOTUS decision, Mat … [Read more...]

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“Lava” in the Western World: Justice Kennedy and Pixar

Yesterday afternoon I watched Inside Out. You'll get more from me about that later, but for right now I want to write a bit about "Lava," the short, and the weird coincidence that I saw it on the day of the Supreme Court's gay marriage decision.Aesthetically "Lava" is a mixed bag--or rather, a bag with one great thing and one awful thing in it. The designs for the two volcanic main characters are charming, lovely, and just weird enough. But the short tells a simple story--it could easily … [Read more...]

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Philadelphia Brought You a Startlingly Good Articulation of Catholic Teaching on Marriage, Vocation, And Family, And Now…

they're offering a web seminar on the same topics. Chris Roberts, author of the excellent Creation & Covenant: The Significance of Sexual Difference in the Moral Theology of Marriage and one of the authors of the Philadelphia Archdiocese's surprisingly terrific Love Is Our Mission: The Family Fully Alive (which I reviewed here), is giving a seminar TODAY, this evening at 7 - 8 Eastern! Sorry for the late notice but you can register here and I suspect you will not regret it.EDITED to … [Read more...]

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