Your Body Is a Battleax: Against the Weaponization of Gay Christian Witness, Plus More From Canada

So last weekend I got to visit Our Neighbor to the North, the magical land where when you say, "Toller Cranston," people actually say, "Oh, the figure skater?" I learned many things there. Milk in bags is a REAL THING, people, it's not just something made up for Gordon Korman fanfiction! Here are some notes, including bonus #CanCon in case there's a subsidy for that.# I was there to do a longer version of my usual shtik about paths of love for gay people in the Church. (BOOK ME, I RESONATE … [Read more...]

Ask Melinda Selmys Your NFP Questions!

Would you like a practical, philosophical, and psychological look at natural family planning from someone for whom it has been at times a grueling and frightening struggle? Someone who understands why you might be bitter and exhausted, who has experienced some of the beauty and promises of NFP but also been harmed by the Pollyannaish or judgmental attitudes with which it's often promoted? You are in luck: Eve Tushnet has been twisting my arm a bit to try to get me to write an NFP book. My basic … [Read more...]

Beauty Is the Beast: Melinda Selmys’s Horror Anthology

A vampire, in the depths of the Soviet Lubyanka prison, knows he will live when Stalin's empire is in the ash heap of history. Two nervous philosophers argue about whether the zombies gathering outside have a valid alternative deathstyle. A melodramatic nihilist decides to revolt against Nature itself--and wins, and learns what lies beyond Nature. Supernatural totalitarians try to co-opt an artist.Melinda Selmys has a gift for the startling, illuminating idea. Against Nature, her … [Read more...]

“Whatever It Takes to Make Lent Hardcore”: Melinda Selmys

has a series, some of the premises of which I dispute (and I may write a bit more about that later), but which includes some fascinating thoughts and stories. Take what you need and leave the rest, as they say.Several years back a friend of mine decided to give up furniture for Lent. The problem that she was facing was that for several years before that she had used Lent as a time to add observances like the Divine Office to her daily schedule. When Easter rolled around, she would just … [Read more...]

“Till Pregnant Women Have Faces”: Melinda Selmys

lays it down:I’ve been having lots of weird, really vibrant dreams (I usually don’t dream or don’t remember my dreams or they’re really dull.) The latest was that I was going to make a birth pilgrimage where I would be walking in silence across country to the place where I would give birth. My face was going to be veiled because in the dream women’s faces become plasticized and cartoonish during pregnancy. I was walking with a woman who I was supposed to pretend was my grandmother, even thoug … [Read more...]

The Human Heart Is a Cactus, The Desert Makes It Bloom: Notes on Friendship and a Courage Conference

So I was invited to a conference run by Courage, a Catholic ministry to people with same-sex attraction. Prof. Janet Smith and I had a dialogue which I thought went fairly well, and which I think they'll eventually make available online. I also have an essay in the book that resulted from the conference, Living the Truth in Love. Here are three smallish thoughts about friendship, in light of what got said at that conference.1. One of the speakers was Dan Mattson, and as always I was so … [Read more...]

Melinda Selmys’s Terrific Series on NFP

Just really important for people who care about this stuff.Also adds some complexity to Wesley Hill's (quite good) post about Christian sexual ethics and "dazzling the pagan eye"--there's a lot of suffering, confusion, loss, anger, and frustration that comes with Christian sexual discipline (even if you don't accept e.g. the Catholic teaching on contraception). That can be dazzling in its own way--e.g. you might see our solidarity in different forms of suffering, or in the way we wrestle … [Read more...]