“Order, Chaos, Peace”: I review a biography of an architect of conservatism

for The American Conservative: Back when I was involved in the late-’90s conservative student movement at Yale, I noticed something. The libertarians, whose philosophy celebrated individual choice and experimental living, were normal and in control of their lives. The traditionalists were disorderly drunks who got kicked out of things. Libertarian pastimes included knitting and swing dancing; trads held contests to see which of them could punch his own face the hardest. (Always bet on the T … [Read more...]

A Very Short Post on Gay and Women’s Liberation in Christ

In one of the three post-concussion Gay Catholic Whatnot interviews I've done so far, my interlocutor asked me, "So what do you think about... pride?"Me, probably getting a little bit too much Jeeves in the face: "Pride, the mortal sin? Or Pride, the thing where they throw beads?"But no, it's in fact a great question, because it implies an underlying question of what a Christian model of gay (and I think also women's) lib would look like. Pride, the thing where they throw beads, is … [Read more...]

Four Kinds of Argument on “True Fulfillment” for Gay Christians

Tim Otto (I reviewed his book here) asks a question about those of us who call for a revival of devoted, intimate same-sex love within the historic Christian sexual ethic: [I]f Wesley is encouraging people of the same sex to “go all the way” in spiritual, emotional, and intellectual ways, why not “go all the way” with the body as well?…I’m curious as to how Wesley would respond to concerns that by singling out physical intimacy as wrong, his proposal is dualist or even gnostic. (from here, … [Read more...]

What Does Your Local Crisis Pregnancy Center Need?

I've been volunteering as a crisis pregnancy counselor for a little over a decade, and my friends often ask me what they can give us or do for us. It's Lent so maybe you're thinking about what you can give to women and families in need. Here are a few thoughts ranging in commitment level from very low to very high.First, obviously, the easiest way to know what your local center needs is to ask them. (I didn't do that for this post because I'm not actually going to donate anything so I didn't … [Read more...]

A Conversation with Justin Lee on Relationships for Gay and Same-Sex Attracted Christians

this is my first answer: The question we've been given is, “What are your beliefs about morally appropriate relationships between persons who experience same-sex attraction?” This is (a modified version of) the question being asked by American culture today, but there are a couple of respects in which I don't think it's the best question to address the needs of our churches and the longings of our hearts.The best thing about this question is its focus on relationships: on love. So much Chr … [Read more...]

“Detachment in Friendship”: I’m at Spiritual Friendship

with a small post: A while ago I was talking to my spiritual director about some anxieties I was feeling in one of my friendships. This was a close friendship which had been tested by time (and by my own idiocy) but I was still having a hard time trusting that it would endure, and coping with the changes that were occurring in the friendship.My spiritual director nodded and said, “It sounds like you’re ‘attached’ to this friend, in the sense that you’re relying on the friendship for your wel … [Read more...]

“Our Children: Gay Christians Can’t Afford to Be Divided”: I’m at Level Ground

with not my strongest piece, but I think the underlying point is necessary. One thing I wish I'd added is that gay people who accept the Christian sexual ethic are both the ones serving our neediest and the ones in need: We too have been rejected by our parents and even kicked out of our homes for coming out, and have suffered other economic consequences--sometimes both the economic injustices associated with being gay and economic injustices associated with celibacy or unmarried kinship. We're … [Read more...]