“Celibacy, Self-Acceptance, And the Extra Inkling”: I’m at First Things

readin': I’ve just finished Charles Williams's 1937 novel Descent into Hell, which was recommended to me by a couple of Catholic friends. Williams might be called “the extra Inkling.” Everybody knows J.R.R. Tolkien and C.S. Lewis, but far fewer people remember the other, less aggressively punctuated members of the club, including the philosopher Owen Barfield and Tolkien's son Christopher.Williams is the best-known of these auxiliary Inklings, and his writing is indeed what the youth of toda … [Read more...]

“Who Are the Gay Evangelicals?”: Molly Worthen

in the NY Times:...Exodus’s collapse was a media spectacle. It was a huge blow to those who insist that same-sex attraction can be “cured,” and an encouragement to the growing number of evangelicals, particularly millennials, who support L.G.B.T. rights. But some young Christians resist the notion that embracing queer sexuality as an identity — not a disease — permits them to embrace homosexual relationships. These dissenters proudly call themselves gay or queer or bisexual. But they have tu … [Read more...]

“Matters of Life and Death”: Calah Alexander

writes: It doesn’t just seem like our lives will be over because we have “an intensely narrow vision” of our own identity. Our lives actually do end, in many ways, when we become mothers. It’s the end of one life, the only life we’d ever known, and the beginning of another, and it’s at least as terrifying as being born must be. Maybe more so, because we’re cognizant of what’s happening, and we know that what is now required is the hardest thing of all — to lay down our life for someone else. mo … [Read more...]

Justin Lee’s Final Post in Our Dialogue on Relationships for Gay Christians

is up:...Of course, respect does not mean agreement. Eve and I still disagree on several things. Eve believes the church needs to do more to recognize non-romantic forms of love, and I agree with that. It’s important for all of us, and especially for those who are celibate—by choice or by circumstance. But I don’t think that’s a sufficient answer to the challenges gay Christians face. As I argued in my original article, I believe romantic love is also a critically important part of the puzzl … [Read more...]

Misconceptions: A “Gay and Catholic” Book Extra

So I initially planned to write this post listing the many weird personal judgments people project onto me when they hear that I'm gay and celibate for religious reasons. I'd then go through the different misconceptions and point out how they're false w/r/t my own life and/or that of other gay celibate people I know.But then I asked myself, "What are you hoping to accomplish with this post?"These projections or Internet diagnoses reflect the fact that for many people my witness lacks … [Read more...]

“Green Leaves, Red Flames, And Glimpses of Vocation”: Some Lovely Stuff

from A Queer Calling: ...One summer while on retreat, I sat at the dinner table nearly every evening with a priest who seemed to understand my uncertainty intuitively. Frequently, I asked him questions about how he understood the role of celibacy in his vocation to the priesthood, if he experienced loneliness, and if he had any regrets about forgoing marriage. This priest could tell that I wasn’t casually exploring monastic life with no real intention of committing to a celibate vocation of s … [Read more...]

“Here We Are”: Simcha Fisher on the sacrifices you DIDN’T expect

this is great: These things are all sacrifices, and worthy ones.  But then my kids got older, and started to reveal that they were actual people, and not blank slates for me to write on, or duplicates of myself.  And I found myself face to face with a whole new kind of sacrifice:  sacrificing your idea of what kind of mother I was -- my idea of what it means to be a mother.This one is hard, hard, hard.  Everyone knows what a struggle it is to give up something bad in favor of something goo … [Read more...]