“The challenges of being both gay and Catholic”: I’m in the Washington Post

reflecting on Fr James Martin's new book. FWIW I think it's worth either reading or skipping to the end of this fairly long piece: After the Pulse shooting, Washington area houses of worship held an interfaith vigil. The participants were of every sexual orientation and many beliefs; celibate gay people stood alongside those in same-sex marriages to mourn and pray. Sometimes it can be harder to come together in ordinary times than in the wake of crisis. But our challenge is to be honest about … [Read more...]

Your Body Is a Battleax: Against the Weaponization of Gay Christian Witness, Plus More From Canada

So last weekend I got to visit Our Neighbor to the North, the magical land where when you say, "Toller Cranston," people actually say, "Oh, the figure skater?" I learned many things there. Milk in bags is a REAL THING, people, it's not just something made up for Gordon Korman fanfiction! Here are some notes, including bonus #CanCon in case there's a subsidy for that.# I was there to do a longer version of my usual shtik about paths of love for gay people in the Church. (BOOK ME, I RESONATE … [Read more...]

“Beyond Religious Life and Marriage”: My Epic Piece for “America” on Nonmarital Christian Kinship

in some of its many forms: Tim Otto found the Church of the Sojourners in San Francisco almost by accident. When he was a lonely little kid, one of their members, an artist, tried to teach him to paint. (“I was an utter failure,” he remembers.) When he grew up, he began to see in Sojourners, a Christian intentional community, a form of discipleship and an “art of love” that he admired and needed. more! I may as well say that I like the ending of this piece. Every time I do this stuff I try to d … [Read more...]

Will Heterosexuality and Anagrams Save Us from Tyranny?

So on Sunday I went to the Kennedy Center for a children's show, "Where Words Once Were." Cannot confirm the effect on actual children of this fable about totalitarian control of language, since the lad with whom I saw the play was (ironically) disinclined to offer his commentary. But the show offered a window into what our artists and teachers can and can't imagine.So here's the thing: It's probably a fine show, if heavy on the explanations. The look and feel is very "turquoise-gray … [Read more...]

Calling Godparents, Lifelong Friends, People Who Have Pledged to Serve Communities, And More!

Hello all. I'm doing a piece for America on what you might call "alternative kinship." Nonmarital, nonsexual forms of belonging and making family, which take place in a Christian context. The ones I'm most interested in are those adorned with ritual and formal promises, like the vows of friendship Wes Hill describes in his excellent Spiritual Friendship, but I'd also be interested in other ways people build practical and spiritual ties outside of marriage and religious orders/priesthood.If … [Read more...]

“Cocktail Theology”: William Dailey

at First Things: That brings us to the most important spiritual aspect of cocktail culture: hospitality. Those people coming in off the streets, coming into churches and taverns, what do they seek? Home. What truly excellent pastors can help to provide for the wayfarer is a taste of the home that is promised us with our Maker, though of course we will never feel quite at home this side of the kingdom. But the work of helping people to feel a bit less estranged, a bit more comfortable in their … [Read more...]

Assisted Suffering

So, I voted.Remember how I said my ballot would be a fractal of civic helplessness? That's especially true because of the current DC political issue that isn't being put to referendum: Assisted suicide will almost certainly become law here early next year, due to support in the city council and likely from the mayor. Only two councilmembers (Yvette Alexander and Brianne Nadeau, both Democrats) voted against legalizing assisted suicide here.The arguments on our side that I've heard here … [Read more...]