“Why This Gay-Married Protestant Loved Eve Tushnet’s ‘Gay and Catholic’”

Very kind & thoughtful review of the book, at New Directions: ...Part One of Gay and Catholic is Eve’s own account of coming out as a lesbian in her atheist family, falling in love with the Catholic church in college, choosing to be baptized, and then confronting her alcoholism – a story made all the more interesting because its pieces seem to be scrambled and assembled in the opposite order from your average gay Christian autobiography.Eve has a remarkable gift for mixing incisive wit a … [Read more...]

“Detachment in Friendship”: I’m at Spiritual Friendship

with a small post: A while ago I was talking to my spiritual director about some anxieties I was feeling in one of my friendships. This was a close friendship which had been tested by time (and by my own idiocy) but I was still having a hard time trusting that it would endure, and coping with the changes that were occurring in the friendship.My spiritual director nodded and said, “It sounds like you’re ‘attached’ to this friend, in the sense that you’re relying on the friendship for your wel … [Read more...]

The Opposite of Anti-Gay Discrimination: What I Said at Steubenville

Hi y'all. Last week I had the chance to speak at the terrific BookMarx bookstore in Steubenville, OH. ("I'm here to do a job, I won't buy anything. ...I'll just buy like one or two very slender books." Walked out with a stack of sci-fi, Rumer Godden, and Italian epics. Some men, some men....) I'd been asked to speak on "unjust discrimination" against gay people, a term which comes from the Catechism. This is roughly what I said.I started by describing life in a bifurcated culture, where lots … [Read more...]

“No Marriage Is an Island”: I’m at AmCon

riffing on the relevance of a book about gay celibacy for people who are neither gay nor celibate: ...Hill explores how our cultural expectations affect people who, for whatever reason, don’t expect to marry or have kids. How do we give and receive love? How do we lead lives which are fruitful and not just lonely expanses of time-before-death? So often gay people in the “traditional” (for lack of a better word) churches receive no hint that we, too, have vocations—that we, too, are called to lov … [Read more...]

Two Links About Wesley Hill’s Fabulous New Book “Spiritual Friendship”

Oh so much more on this book from me coming soon!First, Wes is interviewed by Jonathan Merritt for RNS: RNS: Let’s start with the foundation. How do you define friendship in a sentence or two?WH: According to Christian writers of the past, spiritual or Christ-centered friendship—the kind of friendship I’m writing about—is a bond between two (or more) people who feel affection for each other. But it’s also a bond that has a trajectory. It’s a relationship that’s about helping one another … [Read more...]

“Metaphors of Brotherhood and Sisterhood”: I’m at Spiritual Friendship

with a short post: This is just a quick post to note that we don’t use sibling metaphors a lot on this site, and maybe we should. They played an important role in articulating the meaning of vowed friendship in both Eastern and Western Christianity (the terms adelphopoeisis and “wedded brotherhood” both use this metaphor) and they reflect an understanding of friendship as a form of kinship.Wesley Hill quotes me talking about the way that certain friendships, over time, take on the quality of … [Read more...]

“Dismantling the Cross”: Patricia Snow on Renewing Honor for Celibacy

This is a fantastic, hard-fought essay. I don't know that every aspect of it works (see below) but it's countercultural and deeply worth your time. Plus it includes an angle on Kristin Lavransdatter which I had not even considered: Generally speaking, there are two principal vocations in the life of the Catholic Church: marriage on the one hand, and celibate priesthood and religious life on the other. Both are expressions of conjugal love. In the normal calling of marriage, an individual binds … [Read more...]


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