Captive Virgins: St Gregory of Nyssa vs. … Well… Vs. Me, I Guess

and let's see what that title does for my search requests.Wesley Hill truffled up a really fine short article on Gregory of Nyssa's "On Virginity," which offers a much-needed corrective to the way I usually talk about vocations for celibate queer people. Here's an excerpt, but the whole thing is worth your time: ...Adults are single in greater numbers than ever before, but the singles who usually speak in public discussions are sexually active. Why is it that Christian adults who are single … [Read more...]

Art as a Vocation: Gay and Catholic Book Extra!

What do we want? Eve's book! When do we want it? ...Soon! (Preorder now; it releases 10/20.)I drafted a chapter on art as a vocation but cut it because I couldn't figure out a structure, which is always a sign that my thinking is disjointed and either muddled or in some important respect incomplete. Fortunately, in a blog post I can just post a listicle and call it a day. YOU'RE WELCOME. So, you know, here are some points about art as a vocation, especially a vocation for gay/queer/same-sex … [Read more...]

Is “Vocational Discernment” Just a Fancy Term for Navel-Gazing?

A Gay and Catholic extra post!For a lot of people I think the language of vocation, and specifically the language of discerning one's vocation, offers hope. It makes the future, which for gay Christians especially can easily seem like a giant scary blank, seem more like an adventure through a realm full of possibilities.But for others this language seems to add pressure rather than relieving it. "In my day we didn't *~*discern our vocation*~*. We just took care of people!" Or, "I'm okay … [Read more...]

Gay Catholic Book Extras: When the Going Gets Weird, The Weird Get Spiritual Direction

(Preorder the book!)In my post on celibate partnerships I noted that "the more unusual your vocation, the more actively you should seek out spiritual guidance from an outside party." But of course there's a catch-22 here: The weirder your vocation, the more you need spiritual direction; and the weirder your vocation, the harder good direction is to find. In both my book and the partnerships post I spoke mostly to the person seeking direction. In this post I'll try to speak mostly to people … [Read more...]

Celibacy in Partnership: Notes for a Chapter I Wish I’d Included

in my great big gay Catholic book. (Preorder it here or here!)First of all, a caveat. I didn't include a chapter on celibate partnerships (i.e. people who conceive of their vocations together in those terms, rather than in terms of devoted or spiritual friendship--I have a bunch of chapters on friendships which go beyond the modern "just friends" model) partly because I didn't think I understood it very well. I still don't! I'd appreciate your thoughts on all of these "dvd extras" posts, but … [Read more...]

“Why Celibacy Isn’t the Point”: Me at Level Ground

doin' my thing: Gay Christians who are celibate for religious reasons are having a small coming-out party of sorts. We’ve seen recent articles exploring my exotic new sub-sub-sub-subculture in Slate, Religion News Service, and even The Advocate. I’m thrilled to see these pieces and I deeply appreciate the respect the authors showed despite, in some cases, intense and personal theological differences. But there’s always going to be some dissonance when a community is represented by outsid … [Read more...]

A Couple Gay Christian Whatnot Links

Protestants! CAN YOU FEEL THE ECUMENISM.First, my friend Matt Jones looks at how his shifting understanding of vocation has changed both his emotional and spiritual life--very powerful: Two years ago, as I was just beginning to think more critically about my faith and sexuality, I attended a wedding. It has been interesting to revisit the memorialized emotions that accompanied the ceremony, to examine the well-worn paths down which my uncertain thoughts routinely fled when confronted by … [Read more...]


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