Living Inauthentically Causes Us to Feel Morally Tainted

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According to a report published by PsychCentral.  A new study suggest that the human drive for authenticity — being true to ourselves and living in accordance with our values — is so fundamental that we feel immoral or impure when we hide our true colors. This sense of impurity then leads us to engage in cleansing or charitable behaviors as a way of clearing our conscience, according to researchers. “Our work shows that feeling inauthentic is not a fleeting or cursory phenomenon, it cuts to the … [Read more...]

Mother or Martyr? 3 Steps to Beating “Perfect Mommy Syndrome”

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I regularly read blog posts from really great moms who tell some pretty disturbing stories of the things they put themselves through to try to attend to their children. All of the stories tend to follow the "I thought the only way to be a good mom was to do X, Y, and Z until I made myself sick because some expert/my friends/my mom group/some blog told me I had to do it that way and it almost destroyed my life and my relationships"  narrative.Inevitably, these posts end with the blogger … [Read more...]

You Can Prevent Anxiety in Your Children

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New research published in the Journal of Child Development shows that the degree to which parents respond to their infants' and toddlers' needs promptly, generously, and consistently (the keys to healthy attachment) predicts how anxious their children will be in young adulthood, especially among boys and children who tend to have shy temperaments to begin with. (Read more details here).This is just the latest in a series of studies that show how responding promptly, generously, and … [Read more...]

How Healthy is YOUR Relationship with God? –TAKE THE QUIZ!

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The following quiz* is a statistically valid and reliable measure that evaluates the degree to which a person's relationship with God is healthy and secure.   Most people are surprised by the results.  How will you score? DirectionsCircle the number indicates your level of agreement from DISAGREE STRONGLY (DS) to NEUTRAL (N)  to AGREE STRONGLY (AS).  The points assigned will vary from question to question.  Don't worry about the numbers for now, just view them as place-holders that indicate … [Read more...]

What’s the #1 Thing Stressed Out Kids Need to Feel Better? (Infographic)

H/T Stress BetterTake a look at this revealing infographic based on a survey of almost 1000, 9-13 year-olds about both what stresses them out and what they do to de-stress.  I'll have a few comments below.  To highlight a few points, I thought it was striking that only 22% of kids talk to their parents about their stress but 75% would like to be able to rely on their parents more to help them cope.  In my experience, we parents are too tempted to think "the kids are … [Read more...]

Neuroscience Proves “Perfect Love Casts Out Fear.”

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There is no fear in love, but perfect love drives out fear (1 Jn. 4:18).Perfect love may remove all fear, but a new study of the brain finds that even the hint of love is enough to begin to calm the fearful brain.Being shown pictures of others being loved and cared for reduces the brain's response to threat, new research has found. The study discovered that when individuals are briefly presented pictures of others receiving emotional support and affection, the brain's threat monitor, the … [Read more...]

All Shook Up: “Therapy Better than Meds for Overcoming Anxiety.” Says Major Study

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About a week-and-a-half ago, I taped a series on Women of Grace with Johnnette Benkovic on anxiety and my book, God Help Me, This Stress Is Driving Me Crazy!  Finding Balance through God's  Grace.  At the time, I asserted that while most people only receive medication by way of treatment for anxiety disorders, medication is simply less effective than therapy.  On the show, I said that anyone who has an anxiety disorder and is not receiving therapy is not receiving the best standard of care and ma … [Read more...]

Belief Beats Genes: Study Reveals Shocking Truth About Reaching Your Goals

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Simply telling people that hard work is more important than genetics causes positive changes in the brain and may make them willing to try harder, a study shows. "Giving people messages that encourage learning and motivation may promote more efficient performance," said the lead investigator. "In contrast, telling people that intelligence is genetically fixed may inadvertently hamper learning." Telling people...that hard work trumps genes causes instant changes in the brain and may make them … [Read more...]


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