Today’s Cool Kids Are Tomorrow’s At-Risk Kids

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A new study may provide both a cautionary tale for parents of cool kids and a moment of schadenfreude for adults who were bullied in childhood.   At 13, they were viewed by classmates with envy, admiration and not a little awe. The girls wore makeup, had boyfriends and went to parties held by older students. The boys boasted about sneaking beers on a Saturday night and swiping condoms from the local convenience store.  They were cool. They were good-looking. They were so not you.  Whatever ha … [Read more...]

Prayer Promotes Bonding, Study Says.

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Servant of God, Fr. Patrick Peyton, is famous for the slogan, "the family that prays together, stays together."  In our books, our radio program and counseling practice, we strongly recommend both couple and family prayer as a way of increasing intimacy and responding to the differences that can divide.  Of course, this isn't just true for families.  Prayer is the means by which Jesus' own wish that all might be one in him (John 17:21) will be fulfilled.  As Pope Francis has demonstrated rep … [Read more...]

Frequent Arguing Doubles Risk of Death by Mid-Life

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Frequent arguments with partners, relatives, or neighbors may boost the risk of death from any cause in middle age, suggests research published online in the Journal of Epidemiology & Community Health.  (See Science Daily for full article)Researchers quizzed almost 10,000 men and women aged 36 to 52 about their everyday social relationships. The researchers focused particularly on who, among partners, children, other relatives, friends and neighbors, made excess demands, prompted wo … [Read more...]

Couple Conflict: Quality of Argument Less Important than Quality of Relationship

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The way a couple treats each other outside of their arguments is the best predictor of the couple's ability to get something positive out of their arguments--even if they're more heated than they ought to be.  Obviously, no couple likes to argue, but some couples seem to weather it better than others.  Therapists often think that the best way to deal with arguments is to avoid them, but is it possible to help teach couples to not be overwhelmed by bad arguments when they happen--and even be able … [Read more...]

Couple Conflict: Surprising Role Parenting Plays in Couple’s Ability to Rebound from Arguments

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One more reason parents need to be mindful of attachment parenting practices.  It turns out, the strength of parents' attachment to their kids predicts kids' ability to handle conflict in their future marriages. In a recent study examining couples' conflict management styles...researchers also had data on the target participants’ childhood attachment style and looked at how it impacted their conflict recovery. Unsurprisingly, individuals who were rated as securely attached recovered from co … [Read more...]

Overcoming Bitterness: 5 Steps for Healing the Hurt that Won’t Go Away

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No one wants to be bitter.  It sneaks up on us.  Bitterness is unforgiveness fermented.    The more we hold onto past hurts the more we become drunk on our pain and the experience can rob us of the joy we can find in anything. Bitterness occurs when we feel someone has taken something from us that we are powerless to get back.  We hold on to the hurt in an attempt to remind ourselves and others of the injustice we've experienced in the hopes that someone will save us and restore what we've lo … [Read more...]

Marriage Hack: Improve your Marriage (and your Life) in 3 Easy Steps

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On this feast of St. Jerome, who is almost as well-known for his temper as for his work translating the bible, we thought we'd share some tips for negotiating marital arguments.This video reveals a surprisingly simple, empirically-validated technique that anyone can use to improve their marriage and, surprisingly, general life satisfaction in 3 easy steps.  I'll describe those steps below, but it's worth watching the video to understand the background of the study and to get a sense of how … [Read more...]

COMING MONDAY on More2Life Radio–When Faith Divides

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Coming Monday: When Faith Divides--In Sunday's Gospel, Jesus says, "Do you think I came to bring peace?"  We'll look at those times when our faith puts us at odds with others and how to work toward peace in spite of those differences.Plus, TOB Insitute's Bill Donaghy reflects on how the Theology of the Body both challenges the culture and allows us to engage it more effectively.Call in at 877-573-7825 from Noon-1 Eastern (11-Noon Central) with your questions aboutCan’t get M2L on a Ca … [Read more...]


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