Resolving Sexual Conflict–A Spiritual Response

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Research shows that about 80% of couples experience some degree of conflict related to mismatched sexual desire.  Some couples manage this mismatched desire well while, for others, differences in desire can become a huge marital issue.  What separates between these two groups?Libido Not the Cause of ConflictIt turns out that mismatched sexual desire may, by itself, not be necessary contributor to marital conflict.  New research suggests that it is the couple's response to mismatched de … [Read more...]

Are Your Committing These 2 Relationship-Killing Habits?

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When you have a conflict with your spouse or significant other, do you withdraw like a turtle into its shell? Or perhaps you expect your partner to be a mind reader about what ticks you off?  Those aretwo of the most common types of disengagement in relationships, and both can be harmful, but in different ways and for different reasons, says researcher Keith Sanford, Ph.D., associate professor of psychology and neuroscience in Baylor University's College of Arts & … [Read more...]

5 Signs YOU’RE Dealing with Toxic People

Although, as Christians, we are called to be charitable toward others, there are some relationships that we simply have to acknowledge are patently unhealthy.  Certainly we can pray for healing, but wemight need to do that from a distance! Unfortunately, sometimes the least healthy relationships are the ones we’re most anxious about letting go!  This article from PsychCentral can help you discern whether you’re in a toxic relationship with a poisonous person. 1. It seems like you can’t … [Read more...]

Healthy Marriage Habit #3: Emotional Regulation

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Each day, in celebration of the release of my latest book, When Divorce Is Not An Option: How to Heal Your Marriage and Nurture Lasting Love, I’ll look at one of the 8 habits that separates “marriage masters” from “marriage disasters.”  Last week, I summarized all 8 habits and we've looked at the first two habits in greater detail already.   Today, I’ll describe the third habit, Emotional Regulation.  After a brief explanation, you’ll have a chance to take a quiz that can help you evaluate how he … [Read more...]

“Mommy, Daddy, Stop Fighting!” Parental Conflict Hurts Kids’ Ability to Identify/Control Emotions

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Exposure to verbal and physical aggression between parents may hurt a child's ability to identify and control emotions, according to a longitudinal study. Exposure to conflict...in the home can shape children's neurobiological, cognitive, and behavioral responses."Our study points to ways in which aggression between parents may powerfully shape children's emotional adjustment," says C. Cybele Raver, professor of applied psychology at NYU Steinhardt and the study's lead author. "Arguing and … [Read more...]

Protect Your Kids from Cyberbullies with this 1 Simple Habit

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Cyberbullying was associated with mental health and substance use problems in adolescents but family dinners may help protect teens from the consequences of cyberbullying and also be beneficial for their mental health.About 1 in 5 adolescents has experienced recent online bullying and cyberbullying, like traditional bullying, can increase the risk of mental health problems in teens as well as the misuse of drugs and alcohol. It is important to understand whether cyberbullying contributes … [Read more...]

Today’s Cool Kids Are Tomorrow’s At-Risk Kids

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A new study may provide both a cautionary tale for parents of cool kids and a moment of schadenfreude for adults who were bullied in childhood.   At 13, they were viewed by classmates with envy, admiration and not a little awe. The girls wore makeup, had boyfriends and went to parties held by older students. The boys boasted about sneaking beers on a Saturday night and swiping condoms from the local convenience store.  They were cool. They were good-looking. They were so not you.  Whatever ha … [Read more...]

Prayer Promotes Bonding, Study Says.

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Servant of God, Fr. Patrick Peyton, is famous for the slogan, "the family that prays together, stays together."  In our books, our radio program and counseling practice, we strongly recommend both couple and family prayer as a way of increasing intimacy and responding to the differences that can divide.  Of course, this isn't just true for families.  Prayer is the means by which Jesus' own wish that all might be one in him (John 17:21) will be fulfilled.  As Pope Francis has demonstrated rep … [Read more...]


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