For Better or Worse: You’ll Be Surprised at These 4 Ways Marriage Changes You!

We all know that marriage changes us, but new research in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships looks at exactly how that process happens and the specific changes we can expect to see based on the way we respond to the ups and downs of married life.  According to the study, there are 4 ways couples change as a result of their marriage, two of which are positive and two are negative.Positive Marital ChangesSelf-Expansion:  Is the tendency to develop new, positive qualities (e. … [Read more...]

Believe It Or Not, Study Actually Says, “Happy Wife, Happy Life!”

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Proverbs 18:22 says, "He who finds a wife finds what is good and receives favor from the LORD."  A new study from Rutgers and the University of Michigan proves how true that is!When it comes to a happy marriage, a new Rutgers study finds that the more content the wife is with the long-term union, the happier the husband is with his life no matter how he feels about their nuptials."I think it comes down to the fact that when a wife is satisfied with the marriage she tends to do a lot more … [Read more...]

2 Critical Ways Healthy Relationships Help You THRIVE!

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Everyone knows that having healthy relationships promote well being, but how, exactly do they do that?  A new study looks at how, exactly, relationships promote well-being.Yesterday I posted the 5 factors that researchers say constitute thriving;  that is, living a deeply satisfying, meaningful, healthy and abundant life.  This latest research finds that relationships promote thriving in two important ways.   According to the study...The first important function of relationships is to su … [Read more...]

Are You Thriving? 5 Ways YOU Can Live A Fuller Life.

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Self-help books (including a couple of my own--see here and here) often talk about thriving versus merely surviving but have you ever wondered what it takes to really thrive?Jesus said, "I came that you might have life and have it more abundantly" and I would argue that he was referring to both eternal life and life in the present.  Secular psychologists use the term "thriving" for what Christians might call an "abundant life"--at least this side of Heaven.    In fact,  researchers have ide … [Read more...]

Smile! It’s International Happiness Day!

Seriously, that's a thing.  Check it out...Speaking at the High Level Meeting on "Happiness and Well-Being: Defining a New Economic Paradigm"convened during the sixty-sixth session of the General Assembly the Secretary General Ban Ki-moon stated that the world “needs a new economic paradigm that recognizes the parity between the three pillars of sustainable development. Social, economic and environmental well-being are indivisible. Together they define gross global happiness.”  The meeting wa … [Read more...]

The Secret of Forgiving Yourself

We're heading into Lent and, as I noted on the show today, it's a time where lots of us will end up facing some degree of temptation to beat up on ourselves for failing in our efforts to fulfill our Lenten penances.  Beyond this, though, forgiving oneself for one's failings and struggles is a constant struggle.  It can be hard to know what forgiving yourself means much less how to do it.As I've shared before, St Augustine said that  forgiveness is what happens when we "surrender our natural d … [Read more...]

A Screwtape Letter to An Unappreciated Mom

The original Screwtape Letters by CS Lewis reveals a series of fictitious letters between Screwtape, a senior demon, and his nephew, Wormwood, a demon-in-training, about the tricks of the demonic trade of tempting a "patient" (i.e., Christian) away from "the Enemy" (i.e., God).    In this tremendous adaptation, a blogger reveals a previously undiscovered letter from Screwtape to Wormwood about how to undermine the faith, marriage, and confidence of  "an unappreciated mom."  It's powerful stuff, a … [Read more...]

Hi All You Happy People: 21 Habits of Supremely Happy People

I came across this article that summarizes recent developments in positive psychology research into a list of 21 habits happy people cultivate.  Taken individually, each item has been shown to empirically boost our baseline happiness level a bit.  But as I looked at the list, it occurred to me what a powerful effect cultivating even a handful of these habits into one's everyday life would have.  They are all so simple.  Most interesting to me is the consistent finding that the happiest people are … [Read more...]


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