What Douthat & Martin Miss: Reflections on the Ongoing Synod Discussion

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NYT columnist, Ross Douthat,  and America Editor-at-Large, Fr. Jim Martin, are having a very interesting conversation about the fallout from the Extraordinary Synod on the Family.  I applaud them on their civility, but I do think they are missing some important points.So Who Asked You, Anyway?Although they haven't asked my opinion, I did want to offer a few thoughts because as a full-time marriage and family minister who has written more than 20 books promoting the Catholic vision of m … [Read more...]

Turn Your Marriage Around with this 1 Important Habit

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In my new book, When Divorce is Not an Option:  How to Heal Your Marriage and Nurture Lasting Love,  I reveal the research that describes the 8 basic habits that separate happy couples from unhappy ones.  Happy couples aren't so much lucky or born to be happy, they cultivate certain habits that any couple can learn.One of those habits I call "emotional rapport and benevolence."  In other words, happy couples make a point of stepping outside of their comfort zone to demonstrate real interest i … [Read more...]

Healthy Marriage Habit #5: Caretaking in Conflict

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Each day, in celebration of the release of my latest book, When Divorce Is Not An Option: How to Heal Your Marriage and Nurture Lasting Love, I’ll look at one of the 8 habits that separates “marriage masters” from “marriage disasters.”  Last week, I summarized all 8 habits and we’ve looked at the first four habits in greater detail already.   Today, I’ll describe the fifth habit, Caretaking in Conflict.  After a brief explanation, you’ll have a chance to take a quiz that can help you evaluate how … [Read more...]

Healthy Marriage Habit #4: Positive Intention Frame

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Each day, in celebration of the release of my latest book, When Divorce Is Not An Option: How to Heal Your Marriage and Nurture Lasting Love, I’ll look at one of the 8 habits that separates “marriage masters” from “marriage disasters.”  Last week, I summarized all 8 habits and we’ve looked at the first three habits in greater detail already.   Today, I’ll describe the four habit, Creating a Positive Intention Frame.  After a brief explanation, you’ll have a chance to take a quiz that can help you … [Read more...]

Healthy Marriage Habit #2: Emotional Rapport & Benevolence. Take the Quiz!

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Each day, in celebration of the release of my latest book, When Divorce Is Not An Option: How to Heal Your Marriage and Nurture Lasting Love, I’ll look at one of the 8 habits that separates “marriage masters” from “marriage disasters.”  Monday, I summarized all 8 habits and yesterday we looked at Rituals of Connection.  Today, I’ll describe the second habit, Cultivating Emotional Rapport & Benevolence.  After a brief explanation, you’ll have a chance to take a quiz that can help you evaluate … [Read more...]

The Extraordinary Synod on the Family–Processing the Explosion

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The Catholic world exploded the other day with the release of the Relatio,  the summary document intended to highlight the progress of the Synod Fathers so far.  There is another week ahead of course, and then the Synod will adjourn until next October when the conversation will pick back up up again with the Ordinary General Assembly of the Synod of Bishops on the Family.  But the first week was, depending upon whom you ask, either the absolute end of the world, or nothing much to write home abo … [Read more...]

Healthy Marriage Habit #1: Rituals of Connection. Take the Quiz!

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Each day, in celebration of the release of my latest book, When Divorce Is Not An Option: How to Heal Your Marriage and Nurture Lasting Love, I'll look at one of the 8 habits that separates "marriage masters" from "marriage disasters."  Yesterday, I listed all 8 habits.  Today, I'll describe the first habit, Rituals of Connection.  After a brief explanation, you'll have a chance to take a quiz that can help you evaluate how healthy this habit is in your marriage.Healthy-Marriage Habit #1: Ri … [Read more...]

8 Habits of Healthy Couples

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My newest book, When Divorce Is Not An Option: How to Heal Your Marriage and Nurture Lasting Love looks at the eight habits that healthy couples cultivate in their relationship and describes, step-by-step how couples who are struggling can develop those habits in their relationship.There's a lot of confusion about what separates happy couples from unhappy couples.  The book explodes some of those myths.  For instance, you might be surprised to know that happy couples argue about as often as u … [Read more...]


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