At PsychCentral, Dr. Linda Hatch has a thought provoking article that gets at the heart of the difference I draw in my book, Holy Sex! , between eroticism, which is sex that is hyper-focused on pleasure to the exclusion of intimacy, and what I call "Holy Sex", which sees pleasure as the fruit of the emotionally and spiritually intimacy that a couple cultivates in a marriage. She says,Hot sex is the sugar high of sexuality. It is sex that is amped up to a heightened level by some form of fe … [Read more...]
Check out this great post by Jacob Popcak of JHP MinistryWhat pictures come to mind when you hear the word, “fasting”? What about, “penance”? Perhaps you envision the grumpy monk, self-flagellating in some medieval chamber. Or perhaps you see the pious holier-than-thou, starving herself out of some sense of personal loathing. As citizens of the 21st Century, it’s very likely that you envision something at least similar to what I’m describing. Because of these associations, I always had a rea … [Read more...]
Celebrate National Marriage Week with FaithontheCouch as we explore what it takes to live a more loving, joyful, grace-filled marriage!Do You Have What it Takes to Get to "Happily Ever After?"Almost every newly married couple has two things in common. First, they are deeply in love with each other and rightly excited about the lives they are building together. They are passionate about each other, and hopeful about a bright future filled with blessings. But second, underneath that mu … [Read more...]
How do you know when it's OK to keep bringing something up?As a marriage and family therapist, hardly a day goes by when I don't hear a wife ask if she is "being a nag" or hear a husband accuse a wife of the same. (Curiously, I rarely hear husbands worry about this or hear wives accuse husbands of this "crime.")Nagging Defined.To be fair, there are times when a person can be a nag. For instance, if you have articulated a concern or need to your spouse and they are actively working … [Read more...]
Do YOU know the truth about the Catholic difference in marriage? One thing that became stunningly clear in light of the recent Synod on the Family is how little people really understand the Catholic vision of marriage — perhaps most especially Catholics! Test your Catholic marriage IQ with the following questions.Q: What is the primary job of the Catholic husband and wife? A: The primary job of a Catholic husband and wife is to help get each other to heaven. That's a big part of what it m … [Read more...]
Bad Parenting: Why The Ban Against Communion for Divorced and Remarried Catholics Is Unjust and 3 Ways to Fix It.
In all the debate about what should be done to help those Catholics who have divorced and remarried without the benefit of an annulment, there is one solution I have not heard debated.Let's Be Honest... I agree that it is seriously problematic to allow those who have remarried without the benefit of an annulment to receive communion for the reasons I have mentioned elsewhere. But let's face it, Did the vast majority of people who are on this path choose it knowingly and consciously? D … [Read more...]
Some years back, Rudolph Flesch wrote a book called, "Why Johnny Can't Read" about the poor state of literacy among children. As I listen to the various conversations going on at the Synod on the Family in Rome, I wonder if Flesch could be persuaded to write a sequel for Catholic Cardinals and Archbishops.During the synod, there have been many discussions about how to handle various challenges such as what can be done to help Catholics who have remarried after divorce without the benefit of … [Read more...]