Soulmates? Become What You Are.

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A lot of pastors and other marriage ministers have a very strong, negative opinion of the word, "soulmate."  I can understand where they're coming from.  For many couples, finding a soulmate implies that they should never have problems again.  Of course, this can become a huge concern if and when this couple hits difficulties in their relationship.  After all, soulmates shouldn't argue--or at least, argue this much--should they?Soulmates Less Happy Than SojournersSome new research hig … [Read more...]

Religion is Bad for Marriage (when there’s not enough of it)

Great post over at David French's blog on the Evangelical Channel on Patheos.  The Blue States often sneer at the South because the South claims higher rates of religiousness but ALSO higher divorce rates.  Many liberals take this to assume that religious people in general are just a bunch of hypocrites.  I'll let David take it from here.It’s pretty simple: When it comes to marriage, church attendance matters more than church affiliation.I’ve often heard the South described as “God-h … [Read more...]

Annulment Q & A: 6 Common Questions About Annulments.–UPDATED

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The Patheos Catholic Channel is hosting a Symposium on the Family in light of the upcoming Extraordinary Synod on the Family in October and the recent release of the working document for the Synod.As a pastoral counselor, I often work with people who are either going through divorce or who have been recently divorced.  Often these individuals have very important questions about the annulment process: What is it?  Should they seek one? What difference does it make?  The following are some of t … [Read more...]

Can A Bad Marriage Kill You? Study Says, “Yes, and A Good Marriage May Heal.”

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From Science DailyThe affairs of the heart may actually affect the affairs of the heart in ways previously not understood."Growing evidence suggests that the quality and patterns of one's social relationships may be linked with a variety of health outcomes, including heart disease," says Thomas Kamarck, professor of psychology and Biological and Health Program Chair in the University of Pittsburgh Kenneth P. Dietrich School of Arts and Sciences. He is an author of a new study that correlates … [Read more...]

Enough with the Naysaying–You CAN Make Your Marriage Last A Lifetime

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Sociology professor, Pepper Schwartz, has a rather depressing piece in CNN titled, Lifetime Marriage a Crapshoot.    It reflects on the fact the the biggest percentage increase in divorces is among people over 50.  It used to be that people felt that if you made it to 25 years, you were home free.  Not any more.  Althought the divorce rate is significantly lower among longer-marrieds than among those married fewer than 10 years, it isn't unusual for couples to divorce after 25, 40, even 50 years. … [Read more...]

A Healthy Romantic Relationship Can Stabilize Neurotic People

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(H/T PsychCentral News)   A loving, romantic relationship can have a positive, stabilizing effect on a neurotic personality, according to a new study, published in the online edition of the Journal of Personality.“Neurotic people are rather anxious, insecure, and easily annoyed. They have a tendency towards depression, often show low self-esteem and tend to be generally dissatisfied with their lives,” said psychologist Dr. Christine Finn of the University of Jena in Germany. “However, we were abl … [Read more...]

She Likes Me! She Really Likes Me!

At her blog, Catholic mom, Katie Warner lists some of her favorite marriage books.  Three of her list of best Catholic books on marriage are ours.  Here is her write up.The Exceptional Seven Percent: Nine Secrets to the World’s Happiest Couples, Gregory PopcakMy hubby and I became big fans of Dr. Gregory Popcak just a few pages into this book. It’s practical, implementable, straightforward, and spot-on in its marital wisdom. Our marriage reaped the benefits almost immediately, and we will … [Read more...]

What’s Your “Relationship Work Ethic?”

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Some couples do a better job of prioritizing their relationship than others.  And some couples are simply more comfortable having a more casual attitude toward making time for their marriage.  But a new study shows that all couples--even the ones with a more "don't sweat it" attitude toward couple time--experience a greater risk of marital problems over time if they don't learn to cultivate their "relationship work ethic."Is a date with your partner as important to you as a meeting at work? A … [Read more...]


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