Cardinal Kasper and the Terrible, Horrible, No Good, Very Bad Idea (and A Better Solution–If I Do Say So Myself)

In preparation for the Extraordinary Synod on the Family, many people of good will are floating a lot of different ideas about how the Church should approach various challenges like annulments. (To read my own previous writings on the annulment issue, including my recommendations for improving the annulment process, go here, here, and here.)Cardinal Kasper, former President for the Pontifical Council for Promoting Christian Unity, recently waded into the debate with his own suggestion about … [Read more...]

13 Reasons You Need to Make a Baby Today.

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Ok,  you caught me.  There's really only one reason spread out over 13 countries.The world is graying at a break-neck pace and that's bad news for the global economy.   By 2020, 13 countries will be "super-aged" -- with more than 20% of the population over 65 -- according to a report by Moody's Investor Service.  That number will rise to 34 nations by 2030. Only three qualify now: Germany, Italy and Japan."Demographic transition ... is now upon us," warn Elena Duggar and Madhavi Bokil, th … [Read more...]

Feeling Loved Increases Sexual Pleasure

I get a lot of questions from men wondering how they can please their wives in the bedroom.  A new study confirms my usual advice, "Make her feel loved outside of the bedroom."  That said, it turns out that feelings of love don't just improve the psychological experience of sex.  It also improves the physiological experience of sex.Love and commitment can make sex physically more satisfying for many women, according to a Penn State Abington sociologist.  In a series of interviews, het … [Read more...]

Soulmates? Become What You Are.

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A lot of pastors and other marriage ministers have a very strong, negative opinion of the word, "soulmate."  I can understand where they're coming from.  For many couples, finding a soulmate implies that they should never have problems again.  Of course, this can become a huge concern if and when this couple hits difficulties in their relationship.  After all, soulmates shouldn't argue--or at least, argue this much--should they?Soulmates Less Happy Than SojournersSome new research hig … [Read more...]

Religion is Bad for Marriage (when there’s not enough of it)

Great post over at David French's blog on the Evangelical Channel on Patheos.  The Blue States often sneer at the South because the South claims higher rates of religiousness but ALSO higher divorce rates.  Many liberals take this to assume that religious people in general are just a bunch of hypocrites.  I'll let David take it from here.It’s pretty simple: When it comes to marriage, church attendance matters more than church affiliation.I’ve often heard the South described as “God-h … [Read more...]

Annulment Q & A: 6 Common Questions About Annulments.–UPDATED

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The Patheos Catholic Channel is hosting a Symposium on the Family in light of the upcoming Extraordinary Synod on the Family in October and the recent release of the working document for the Synod.As a pastoral counselor, I often work with people who are either going through divorce or who have been recently divorced.  Often these individuals have very important questions about the annulment process: What is it?  Should they seek one? What difference does it make?  The following are some of t … [Read more...]

Can A Bad Marriage Kill You? Study Says, “Yes, and A Good Marriage May Heal.”

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From Science DailyThe affairs of the heart may actually affect the affairs of the heart in ways previously not understood."Growing evidence suggests that the quality and patterns of one's social relationships may be linked with a variety of health outcomes, including heart disease," says Thomas Kamarck, professor of psychology and Biological and Health Program Chair in the University of Pittsburgh Kenneth P. Dietrich School of Arts and Sciences. He is an author of a new study that correlates … [Read more...]

Enough with the Naysaying–You CAN Make Your Marriage Last A Lifetime

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Sociology professor, Pepper Schwartz, has a rather depressing piece in CNN titled, Lifetime Marriage a Crapshoot.    It reflects on the fact the the biggest percentage increase in divorces is among people over 50.  It used to be that people felt that if you made it to 25 years, you were home free.  Not any more.  Althought the divorce rate is significantly lower among longer-marrieds than among those married fewer than 10 years, it isn't unusual for couples to divorce after 25, 40, even 50 years. … [Read more...]


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