Are Your Committing These 2 Relationship-Killing Habits?

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When you have a conflict with your spouse or significant other, do you withdraw like a turtle into its shell? Or perhaps you expect your partner to be a mind reader about what ticks you off?  Those aretwo of the most common types of disengagement in relationships, and both can be harmful, but in different ways and for different reasons, says researcher Keith Sanford, Ph.D., associate professor of psychology and neuroscience in Baylor University's College of Arts & … [Read more...]

5 Signs YOU’RE Dealing with Toxic People

Although, as Christians, we are called to be charitable toward others, there are some relationships that we simply have to acknowledge are patently unhealthy.  Certainly we can pray for healing, but wemight need to do that from a distance! Unfortunately, sometimes the least healthy relationships are the ones we’re most anxious about letting go!  This article from PsychCentral can help you discern whether you’re in a toxic relationship with a poisonous person. 1. It seems like you can’t … [Read more...]

Surprise! 2 Things Happy Relationships and Christmas Have in Common

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If you had to pick two qualities that characterize the spirit of Christmas, you could hardly do better than kindness and generosity.It turns out that kindness and generosity are the two qualities that, more than any other, distinguish happy couples from the also-rans.   New research by the Gottman Relationship Institute says that happy couples exhibit significantly higher degrees of kindness and generosity than less happy couples.  Of course, you might be tempted to say "Well, that's o … [Read more...]

For Better or Worse: You’ll Be Surprised at These 4 Ways Marriage Changes You!

We all know that marriage changes us, but new research in the Journal of Social and Personal Relationships looks at exactly how that process happens and the specific changes we can expect to see based on the way we respond to the ups and downs of married life.  According to the study, there are 4 ways couples change as a result of their marriage, two of which are positive and two are negative.Positive Marital ChangesSelf-Expansion:  Is the tendency to develop new, positive qualities (e. … [Read more...]

Healthy Marriage Habit #5: Caretaking in Conflict

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Each day, in celebration of the release of my latest book, When Divorce Is Not An Option: How to Heal Your Marriage and Nurture Lasting Love, I’ll look at one of the 8 habits that separates “marriage masters” from “marriage disasters.”  Last week, I summarized all 8 habits and we’ve looked at the first four habits in greater detail already.   Today, I’ll describe the fifth habit, Caretaking in Conflict.  After a brief explanation, you’ll have a chance to take a quiz that can help you evaluate how … [Read more...]

Healthy Marriage Habit #3: Emotional Regulation

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Each day, in celebration of the release of my latest book, When Divorce Is Not An Option: How to Heal Your Marriage and Nurture Lasting Love, I’ll look at one of the 8 habits that separates “marriage masters” from “marriage disasters.”  Last week, I summarized all 8 habits and we've looked at the first two habits in greater detail already.   Today, I’ll describe the third habit, Emotional Regulation.  After a brief explanation, you’ll have a chance to take a quiz that can help you evaluate how he … [Read more...]

Healthy Marriage Habit #2: Emotional Rapport & Benevolence. Take the Quiz!

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Each day, in celebration of the release of my latest book, When Divorce Is Not An Option: How to Heal Your Marriage and Nurture Lasting Love, I’ll look at one of the 8 habits that separates “marriage masters” from “marriage disasters.”  Monday, I summarized all 8 habits and yesterday we looked at Rituals of Connection.  Today, I’ll describe the second habit, Cultivating Emotional Rapport & Benevolence.  After a brief explanation, you’ll have a chance to take a quiz that can help you evaluate … [Read more...]

Healthy Marriage Habit #1: Rituals of Connection. Take the Quiz!

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Each day, in celebration of the release of my latest book, When Divorce Is Not An Option: How to Heal Your Marriage and Nurture Lasting Love, I'll look at one of the 8 habits that separates "marriage masters" from "marriage disasters."  Yesterday, I listed all 8 habits.  Today, I'll describe the first habit, Rituals of Connection.  After a brief explanation, you'll have a chance to take a quiz that can help you evaluate how healthy this habit is in your marriage.Healthy-Marriage Habit #1: Ri … [Read more...]


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