Is No-Sex the New Sex?


That's the title of an article at The Science of Relationships. The article itself covers a few different topics related to this theme, but the thing that struck me was a recognition by secular professionals that a lack of chastity (not the way they put it, of course, but still) is bad for relationships.  To put it in their language, the longer a couple delays the onset of sexual activity, the more likely the relationship will be long lasting and exclusive. Delaying the onset of sexual … [Read more...]

6 Stages of Recovery for Partners of Sex Addicts


Sex addiction statistics show that 25 million Americans visit cyber-sex sites between 1-10 hours per week. Another 4.7 million in excess of 11 hours per week. (MSNBC/Stanford/Duquesne Study, Washington Times, 1/26/2000).   According to Datamonitor, over half of all spending on the Internet is related to sexual activity, with 30 million people logging on at pornographic Web sites daily.  According to some estimates, sex addiction affects about 3-5% of Americans, but that number is also … [Read more...]

The Challenge of Authentic Modesty–5 Things to Do. 1 Thing to Avoid.


Patheos blogger Jennifer Fitz invited me to respond to her comments about my analysis of the so-called "Princeton modesty study."   My original post is here (and is rather cheekily titled, "Women in Bikinis May More Easily Avoid Potentially Abusive Partners, Study Says?).    Jennifer's response is here.  Go read. All caught up?  There's a good fellow. I want to start by saying that I agree pretty much with everything Jennifer wrote.  I agree that modesty is not just in … [Read more...]

Women in Bikinis May More Easily Avoid Potentially Abusive Partners, Study Says(?)


OK, OK, the headline is a joke, but there's a serious point behind it that I think those of us who value true purity as opposed to cheap knockoffs need to reckon with.  This past Summer I've been reading a lot about the 2009 Princeton study that, according to some sources, found that men can't help but view women in bikinis as objects instead of persons.  I hadn't had time to read the study before now,  but I finally got around to it this past weekend and I have to say that the study … [Read more...]

This Guy Gets It–THIS is how to talk to your boys about girls.


This guy totally gets it.   This is probably the best example of Theology-of-the-Body based parenting I have ever read and his son is a lucky boy.  I want all you parents out there--and especially you dads out there--to  read this, memorize it, and repeat it to your kids.  THIS is the way to talk to your boys about girls. Someday I am going to have to have the conversation with my son.  No, not the conversation all parents dread giving and all kids are mortified having.  I enjoy making … [Read more...]

Holy Sex! More Resources for Infallible Loving


When my book, Holy Sex! A Catholic Guide to Toe Curling, Mind Blowing, Infallible Loving came out in 2008, it was (to my knowledge) the first and (again, to my knowledge) still is the only book to which faithful Catholics can turn to address real,  practical questions about sex, sexuality, and sexual problems. And although Holy Sex! continues to be the only published resource that exists to help faithful, Catholic married couples celebrate the fullness of their marital love, I am … [Read more...]

Is the Hook-Up Culture Over-Hyped? Absolultely Not, Study Shows.


As I mentioned,  I've been talking a lot lately about the hook-up culture among young adults. Last month, the New York Times stirred the cultural pot with their article titled, She Can Play That Game Too.  In it, the Times reported the experience of college age women who have become the sexual aggressors in the hook-up culture, often even intentionally getting themselves drunk so that they can bring themselves to play the role of sexual aggressor. A new study from the University of … [Read more...]

“What’s that? Post-Abortion Syndrome May Exist…? Nevermind.”


This month, many secular psychologists are having an Emily Litella moment. Prevailing professional "wisdom" on the link between abortion and subsequent psychological problems is that there is none.   The official position of the American Psychological Association is, "Nothing to see here, folks, let's all just move along shall we?" Well, things are not quite as clear cut as the APA might like you to believe.  First, in 2008, a 30 year longitudinal study of 500 women found that … [Read more...]