In all the debate about what should be done to help those Catholics who have divorced and remarried without the benefit of an annulment, there is one solution I have not heard debated.Let's Be Honest... I agree that it is seriously problematic to allow those who have remarried without the benefit of an annulment to receive communion for the reasons I have mentioned elsewhere. But let's face it, Did the vast majority of people who are on this path choose it knowingly and consciously? D … [Read more...]
Bad Parenting: Why The Ban Against Communion for Divorced and Remarried Catholics Is Unjust and 3 Ways to Fix It.
I had a conversation with a reporter yesterday from a prominent newspaper about the ongoing Synod on the Family. We had a great discussion and I appreciated her time. In particular, we talked a lot about people who felt alienated from the Church (and those who are divorced and remarried in particular). The conversation left me in a thoughtful mood. In particular, I was left reflecting on the question, "Why, exactly, do so many people feel excluded by the Church--especially those who are di … [Read more...]
Each day, in celebration of the release of my latest book, When Divorce Is Not An Option: How to Heal Your Marriage and Nurture Lasting Love, I’ll look at one of the 8 habits that separates “marriage masters” from “marriage disasters.” Monday, I summarized all 8 habits and yesterday we looked at Rituals of Connection. Today, I’ll describe the second habit, Cultivating Emotional Rapport & Benevolence. After a brief explanation, you’ll have a chance to take a quiz that can help you evaluate … [Read more...]
Each day, in celebration of the release of my latest book, When Divorce Is Not An Option: How to Heal Your Marriage and Nurture Lasting Love, I'll look at one of the 8 habits that separates "marriage masters" from "marriage disasters." Yesterday, I listed all 8 habits. Today, I'll describe the first habit, Rituals of Connection. After a brief explanation, you'll have a chance to take a quiz that can help you evaluate how healthy this habit is in your marriage.Healthy-Marriage Habit #1: Ri … [Read more...]
Frank Weathers has a tremendously powerful post on his blog about how he came to forgive his father for the affair that ended his parents' marriage when he was five years old. It is a truly inspirational story of the power of grace and the fruit of forgiveness.In reading Frank's reflection, I was reminded of Elizabeth Marquardt's important research on the spiritual lives of children of divorce. One aspect of that research is that she found that adult children of divorce often have a very di … [Read more...]
Beverly and Jim are newly engaged. Even though they are very much in love, they have big concerns. As Jim explains it, “Neither of us had the best models for marriage. My dad was an alcoholic and Beverly’s parents are divorced. How can we know what it takes to stay together?”Their question got me thinking. Is it possible to boil down the keys to a successful marriage into some basic rules of thumb? Unfortunately, marriage isn’t quite that simple, but there are some do’s and don’t tha … [Read more...]
The other day, I received an email from a young woman who read my post titled, Gay Marriage: Getting the Conversation Right. Her parents divorced when her dad came out and she wanted me to know that they were all in a good place with it--and why couldn't I be? I have removed any identifying details, but I thought I would share our exchange as a way of illustrating the real challenge at the heart of gay marriage and why standing for traditional marriage is not anti-gay, but rather, pr … [Read more...]