Is not the entire nation bummed about Bill Cosby today?
Now that I’m in my late forties (almost), I don’t keep up with pop culture much. I don’t have modern day actors and actresses I adore, look up to, or idolize. But back in the 80’s, when I was growing up, Bill Cosby was just about every teenager’s idol and … uhhh, I guess we’ll call it substitute dad.
Some of us were being raised by good fathers, but in the teen years, strife happens in the parent/child relationship. Even amongst Doctor Heathcliff Huxtable and his kids, there was tension. But we could come home, experience tension with our own fathers, retreat to our room or basement, and watch fictional strife that somehow took our real life strife and made it bearable. Maybe even funny.
Yes, that’s it. He made it possible to laugh at ourselves. Our parents. Our domestic situations.
Today, nobody’s laughing. From what I read, Bill Cosby is ticked about being convicted, about being considered a flight risk, and about the upcoming reality of being treated like a prisoner (although we all know his cell will be … cushy). Those he abused have been understandably ticked for decades. And those of us watching today and for decades are ticked because we feel betrayed.
It all makes me wonder why and how we get so attached to public figures. I’ve never spoken to or seen Bill Cosby in my entire life. I’m willing to bet that ninety-nine point nine, nine, nine percent of my readers haven’t either. Yet here we all are, weeping for our make-believe father.
I don’t have answers to my own question. Humans have always succumbed to people worship, when really, the only Person to ever deserve our worship is Christ – and yet, we crucified Him. So, we are not the best judge of character, are we? That fact alone makes me wonder how well the jury judged. Could they have wrongly convicted the long-time, well-known, well-loved comedian? Were those accusing Cosby of sexual misconduct talented actresses themselves, and were they solely after monetary gain? Was the judge fair? Or did the judge have an ulterior motive of promoting the #MeToo movement and making a nation-wide, highly publicized statement that women will no longer tolerate being groped, drugged, and taken advantage of sexually?
The answer is:
I don’t know.
And neither do you.
We know bits and pieces of each side of the story. But we were not there. The judge was not there. The jury was not there. The only people on earth who know the truth and nothing but the truth about whether the hanky panky that went on was consensual or forced are Billy Cosby and his accusers.
Having said that, the jury has spoken. They know gobs more than you or I know. And so, we must accept the fact that they sat through hour upon hour of testimony and evidence, and additionally took another fourteen hours to finally conclude that Cosby was indeed guilty of sexual assault.
We must also accept that Bill Cosby and his wife claim the evidence was overlooked, and that Cosby remains innocent.
I have a sneaking suspicion most Americans will come to a verdict of their own. It is our nature to do so, and we will be biased. Maybe because we are male. Maybe because we are female. Maybe because we’ve personally been sexually assaulted, and we wish to see such atrocities fought against. I’m in that camp. I’ve experience the assault, and I want someone to put a stop to it. Like, thousands of yesteryears ago.
Still, being a woman and all, I know that none of us in the double X chromosome camp are perfect. Our motives are not always pure and spotless. We are sinners, just like those in the XY camp. Just like Bill Cosby. So, just because the accuser is a woman, and just because that woman says she was assaulted, does not make it so. In 2006, Andrea Constand settled with Cosby for over three million George Washingtons. Except, apparently, things in her mind were not settled at all. The settlement itself is perhaps more indicative of Cosby’s guilt or innocence. Who would pay out that much money if they weren’t guilty and didn’t highly desire to keep their guilt quiet?
I’ve asked the same question, because as I said, I don’t have a Gloria Allred. I’ve no money. I’ve no evidence. I’ve nuthin’ but my word against his. Therefore, I have no choice but to leave my abuser in the hands of God Almighty.