Rethinking Romans 8:28 (It Doesn’t Mean What You Were Taught It Means)

Many of us who grew up in Christianity were taught that life and human history is unfolding according to a master blueprint written by God. Every action that happens, every event, is carefully orchestrated by God. Some of these events have an obvious purpose full of beauty. Some of these events are unspeakably painful, yet [Read More…]

If God Is The Cause Of Our Suffering, He’s Kinda A Jerk (Just Sayin’)

Lately I decided to be more public about some grieving in my personal life. This has sparked some great discussions, which was my hope in being more open and vulnerable in the public sphere. One of the most common issues that comes up in these discussions is the role of God in human suffering. The other [Read More…]

How To Be Here, When *Here* Is The Shittiest Place You Can Imagine

Lately I’ve been swearing a lot. Don’t judge- it makes me feel better. I’ve also been thinking about Rob Bell’s last book, How to Be Here. When we hosted Rob on That God Show, I asked him: “How do you be here, when here totally sucks?” Recently I’ve been doing my own thinking on that question. [Read More…]

No, This Isn’t All Part Of God’s Plan (So Let’s Stop Blaming It On Him)

Lately I’ve been thinking about life. A lot. I’ve also been thinking about the the line we tell people when they’re going through sad chapters in life: “Well, this is all part of God’s plan.” But is it, really? Is all this part of God’s plan? Looking back at the times people have said this [Read More…]

How To Be A Better Friend To Someone Who Grieves At Christmas

For some, Christmas is the most wonderful time of the year– but that’s not true for all of us. It’s quite likely that out of your mix of friends or church family, there are some in your life who will spend the holidays grieving. Here’s a few ideas as to how you could be a [Read More…]

The Backwards Invitation of God: In Order To Live We First Must Die

As you probably know, I’ve been spending the last ten days exploring the Holy Land in Jordan. I’ve had an amazing time experiencing the beauty and hospitality of this land, and certainly have discovered there’s plenty here in Jordan to write about. However, the other day I experienced a moment I hadn’t budgeted for. Yes, [Read More…]

Mourning with Those Who Mourn (it’s not the most wonderful time of year for everyone.)

  It’s the “most wonderful time of the year”, or so they say. Except, that it’s not for everybody. For some, this is the most painful time of the year. For us, this Christmas is a potent mix of both. We’ve been proactive in trying to get into the Christmas spirit in an effort to [Read More…]

Walking Wounded as a Means to Build Community (The Dave Test)

It wasn’t long after my wife and I started dating that I realized I had made a critical mistake in trying to date a therapist. As we got to know each other and as I let Tracy into my own long history of broken dreams, Tracy tried to not-so-gently tell me that I sucked at [Read More…]