“I am waiting to die. I am not hopeless, just completely ignorant about what to do spiritually” 4 Ex-Fundamentalists Tell Me Their Stories

"I am waiting to die. I am not hopeless, just completely ignorant about what to do spiritually and existentially, living a life lived from my whole heart and in my sense of what it means to live in Christ." That's a quote from one of my readers. I asked my Facebook family for their stories of deliverance from fundamentalism. I told them they would be shared on my blog. Here are a few they posted on my FB Page. These stories move me deeply: ...Read more... Danna Baker W … [Read more...]

Embracing paradox helped me discover that religion is a neurological disorder for which faith is the only cure

My kaleidoscopic beliefs are fickle and motivated by desire, wishful thinking, and wanting to fit in with my family and community and to make my marriage work. My dogmatic declarations of faith once provided status, ego-stroking power over others and a much better income than I’ve ever earned since fleeing the evangelical machine. Certainty made things simple, gave me an answer to every question and paid the bills.With the acceptance of paradox came a new and blessed uncertainty that began t … [Read more...]

To Some Atheists and Christians Alike the Phrase “I’m an atheist who believes in God” is ‘Illogical’ and ‘Impossible’ because they are Narrow-Minded Literalists

Why do you think so many atheists seem so evangelistic? They even sometimes speak of their moment of “de-conversion” as a flip-side to the so-called born again experience. If life teaches us anything it's that certainty is overrated.The real life-lessons aren't found in intellectual theories much less in theology, but in seeing life through the lens of those we love most. For instance, I actually experienced brief and perfect instants when death lost its sting.Being with my granddaughter … [Read more...]

Ironically this authentic vibrant refuge was across the street from the hate factory “church” Mars Hill Church

Last night I sang children’s songs with a group of children and adults with Intellectual disability with significantly impaired cognitive functioning and deficits. In other words: I was in a real church helping outcasts. Ironically this authentic vibrant refuge was across the street from the hate factory “church” Mars Hill Church, that until recently was led by Mark Driscoll.We were gathered at the Open Gathering Church. Some of us were in wheelchairs and electric carts. The service reminded me o … [Read more...]

“This is what being raised in the southern Bible belt will do to you…If it is ok, I will share my head for the first time to anyone”

NOTE: If you come from an evangelical background and feel anguish you are not alone. Here's proof! I get 20-30 emails and FB messages a day from readers of my new book expressing anguish over their religious backgrounds. I answer all of them. I learn more from my readers than they learn from me. Here's one exchange I found very moving. (Printed here by permission, name changed.) Take hope. Sat, Aug 16, 2014 12:26 pmFrank: It is such a relief to get to share my head with someone. I am not … [Read more...]

Gordon College Believes That Religious Liberty is the Right to Persecute Gays or as Westboro Puts it “FAG MARRIAGE DOOMS NATIONS”

 “FAG MARRIAGE DOOMS NATIONS,” says one picket sign from the infamous Westboro Baptist Church. Meanwhile Gordon College president D. Michael Lindsay was among 14 religious leaders who sent a letter to the White House demanding a "religious exemption" to a planned order barring federal contractors from discriminating in hiring on the basis of sexual orientation.In other words the Gordon administration believes that religious liberty is the right to persecute gays.Gordon found a sl … [Read more...]

It Never is About Church– It’s Always About Character

Detail from my painting, "Seeing Love Clearly." Where we go to church, or whether we go, isn’t the point. The point is who are we becoming? Does church help you to become the sort of person you’d pick to be stuck on a desert island with? Good! Go! Does it hurt your chances of becoming that person? Run!          Flee from exclusionary certainty. As the bumper sticker says, “Mean People Suck!” And that goes especially for people who are mean in the name of love.          There is on … [Read more...]

Love Through the Eyes of Christ — Easter

 I was shuffling forward in the communion line, with my five year old granddaughter Lucy in my arms. I was lost in gloomy thoughts, brooding on my past and on my doubts, failures, and my past meanness to my wife Genie (we've been married 44 years) when I was young, stupid and so woefully controlling as a teen "father." I was feeling that going to church was a waste of time. I was feeling unworthy in every sense of the word and sinking into a gray depression.Lucy is always in and out … [Read more...]


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