The Mystery Beyond Death: The Meaning of Christmas

(A painting by me, “Joy in July” c Frank Schaeffer 2013) What should we pass on to the next generation? What is essential and non-negotiable? What have our parents founded their lives on that worked? Had they felt as inexperienced and alone as I did the week Mom died in March of 2013? Did being [Read More...]

What my Parents Never Seemed to Have Done is Consider that the Bible Contains a Paradox

When my busy dad Francis Schaeffer and I spent time alone together, I discovered a quiet and humble man who seemed sadder than he was angry while struggling to conform his personality and natural interests – art and hiking  — to a theological ideal that he questioned. As a result of his deep unanswered questions [Read More...]

Here’s A Reason Why I Bother Writing– “Frank, I need the rawness. I need the dirt. I need the profanity.”

I got this email from someone I’ll call “Wounded Recovering Evangelical”, who gave me permission to post it here but says “That being said, please remove all the identifiers. When I say we’re from rural parts, I mean that. Everybody knows everybody. Our people are bible thumping (and twisting), Obama hating, tea party rednecks, bitter [Read More...]

If The Earth Could Talk

Dear Children, This is your mother speaking. Why don’t you call? You never talk to me anymore but I still follow your doings as you scramble around on my surface. One thing I keep hearing you mutter is that you’re worried about me. Some of you say you’re working to save me. I hate to [Read More...]

My Latest on Huff Post Live– fatherhood, children, art, life

Huff Post Live has given me a platform to talk about issues like becoming a father at 17, babies, grandchildren art, life and love… Watch!     http://live.huffingtonpost.com/r/segment/real-biological-clock/51f009f6fe34441a2000025d [Read more...]

FOR GOD’S SAKE, WHERE IS GOD?

“Night” is a book by Elie Wiesel about his experience in the German concentration camps. “One day,” writes Wiesel, “as we returned from work, we saw three gallows… The SS [guards] seemed more preoccupied, more worried, than usual. To hang a child in front of thousands of onlookers was not a small matter. The head [Read More...]

# X Commandment… For the Children’s Sake

X: Never forget passing on what is good doesn’t happen by chance. Did your mother read out loud to you and encourage you to do  creative art projects by filling your house with books and art supplies and music? Pass it on! My mother and sisters read terrific books out loud to me. I passed [Read More...]

# VIII Commandment… continues

VIII: Never pass on your fears. Too many a “be careful!” comment or too many a “Don’t do that!” shout, when the worst case risk isn’t actually going to lead to death or serious injury results in a kid who is scared of the world. Don’t hover! There are far worse things than risking a [Read More...]

# VII Command So You won’t Screw Up Your Kids

VII: Never forget: You are going to grow a carbon copy of what you hate most about yourself– unless you change what you do and are. There are no excuses. There is no point saying, “Well, I have a temper, that’s just the way I am. My Dad/Mom was a bad example.” No excuses. Loving [Read More...]

# VI Commandment Re Your Kids

VI: Never make the mistake I made by expecting that somehow a child will learn to be polite by yelling at them! Snapping, “Say thank you!” or “Say please!” teaches nothing. Saying please and thank you to your child and showing them consistent respect is what they will imitate. (to be continued in this space [Read More...]