How to Keep Your Mate Even If You Are A Semi-Evolved Recovering Evangelical Controlling Bastard

  Following her mother's example my first child  Jessica returned love for my clumsy-to-bad-to-mean "fathering..." She was born when I was 18 but I eventually grew up. When she was a young adult I asked Jessica to forgive me for the times I'd pulled her hair, for the slaps and unkind yelling she endured as a young child.Forgive as you would be forgiven is not a prescriptive command but a factual description of what heals human relationships. If I've learned … [Read more...]

The Blessed Hypocrisy “Method Acting” of Salvation PART 4 (Conclusion)

I have seen the power of forgiveness work to heal my former religious “certainties.” (I wrote about this journey in what my publishers call "The God Trilogy" -- Crazy For God, Patience With God and Sex, Mom and God.) Those certainties gave my primate nastiness  a patriarchal theological boost of self-justification. So before I could change I first had to come to see myself as a persecutor. I had to forget the "biblical example" I'd been set by my evangelist preacher father as he sometimes abused … [Read more...]

The Blessed Hypocrisy “Method Acting” of Salvation PART 2 (of 4)

It’s tempting to rationalize my bad behavior as “caused” by wrong ideas. But blaming wrong beliefs for our true biological natures is as crazy as thinking that right ideas will save us. So when atheists blame religion for war, they are being as silly as Christians who blame atheism for the Gulag. And thinking you can make some “god” forgive you by believing “the” correct doctrine about him is absurd. Any god that petty isn’t worth serving--not to mention hard to credit with the creation of the un … [Read more...]


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