However a married man and woman want to behave in their bedroom is not sinfull unless it includes somone other than the two of them.

No, the proponents od the site you mention don’t practice BDSM. I know some of these people and I can say that for a fact.

However, other christians do practice BDSM consentually between a married man and his wife. I am one of them.

You call it porn, I say what my wife and I do in our bedroom behind closed doors can’t posibly be porn.

The institution of marriage exists to provide an oulet for the “perver[sion] and fornicat[ion] with whom [we] share erotic tastes.”

“Nevertheless, because of sexual immorality, let each man have his own wife, and let each woman have her own husband.” 1 Corninthians 7:2

Diferent people have diferent sexual tastes, some are considered more “exotic” than others. But marriage is God’s santified outlet for sexual tastes (whether exotic or common).

At the end of the day you may not like what I do with my wife, and that is your perogative. But my wife will never have to fear that I will have to go elsewhere to “experement”.

Peace be to you all.

Birth control is a sin

How is birth control a sin?

Why is it a wife’s duty to satisfy her husband? Why can’t he satisfy her too?

There is another part of CDD. Maintenance spankings (scheduled weekly,daily etc.as the husband deems necessary) and Punishment spankings should not include pleasure for the disobedient wife. The husband should be thanked with oral sex from his submissive wife after she finishes her corner time unless the Punishment spanking/beating ends with anal sex supposedly to further punish the bad wife. Then he forgives and cuddles his properly chastened wife before he puts her to bed for the night.

Birth control is a sin and you should only have vaginal intercourse for procreation. So it’s a wife’s duty to satisfy her husband in other ways. I believe that some of these guys use these rules because they don’t enjoy sex with women and think it’s a sin to be with the men they desire.

I met a woman on a chat board who married a fundamentalist with teen daughters that he had straddle his thigh bare ass
for their frequent punishments. She witnessed this before the marriage but their minister approved so she accepted it.

On their wedding night she got the same punishment for her misdeeds that she had committed before the wedding. She found it erotic so didn’t protest the daily hand spankings she received until he felt her debts were paid. Maintenance spankings became bi-weekly and increased in severity. After a year he instituted a Sat. punishment when the girls were at a teen church group.

She had to get naked and arrange herself on her knees over pillows on the bed, legs spread, ass raised and wait for her husband. He would enter the eoom remove his heavy belt and beat her with it as he lectured her on shortcomings as a wife. He never stopped until she was covered with welts from waist to knee including her inner thighs. When he thought.she wasn’t contrite enough he fallowed this with a rubber paddle. It ended with him sodomizing her. Then she was forgiven and put to bed.

This treatment caused her great shame and it took her months to talk about it. I immediately advised her to leave him. He found out and made her e-mail me that she deserved and freely accepted all punishment. She was put on daily spankings plus the Sat beatings. She chose to stay with him as God’s will even though the pleasure has been replaced with pain.and guilt. i think they have an S&M relationship cloaked in the bible.

It’s very sad. I enjoy erotic spanking no CDD, DD or master just hot sex. with my husband. She was and probally still is being beaten, Some woman stay because they believe they’ll go to hell if they leave. I believe they are in hell now

the discussion forums are pretty priceless

I’m a European Christian and tonight I was searching for articles on marriage when I stumbled across this page, which appeared to be giving instructions on how to beat a rebellious wife. I thought I was reading either, as you say, really bad porn, or possibly some al-quaida inspired islamist side show.

I was about to haul ass out of there when I saw the tag line “Christian Domestic Discipline: Loving Wife Spanking”. I confess, before almighty God, all the angels and saints, and the Holy Virgin (who most assuredly never wore those kinky pantaloons) that I did read the whole entire site, and some of the member blogs, and even the excerpts from the “Romance Literature” on Lulu, with a kind of morbid fascination admixed with repulsion.

At first I thought it was a joke. After a harrowing couple of hours, I realised it couldn’t be.Just please don’t punish me (or ask me to wear that stupid underwear) for my moment of weakness where I gave into the sinful desire of morbid curiosity. It was the religious gloss (and after reading the accounts of some of the women invovled, it can only be a gloss) that was the most horrifying, since these relationships clearly looked unhealthy – a bit more than a harmless kink in the bedroom. As CS Lewis once said, by mixing a little of the truth in with the lie, they made the lie far stronger.

How to beat your wife and get her to like it, would be a more appropriate title for that website – because I recognise the techniques – its essentially where the husband take on a jackle-hyde personality and uses very powerful forms of psychological manipulation to get teh wife to mould herself into a prescribed role. I read one where a woman was “disciplined” for accidentally knocking the gas tap on the cooker when she was cleaning it. She thought she deserved the beating she got.

I have no doubt that these wives are more “submissive” after the “treatment”. Essentially its the pavlovian condition beloved of torturers and interrogators everywhere. The trouble is, for Christians, manipulation is a big no-no. It messes with that little thing called free will, and if you take your faith seriously as a Christian, you take that Free Will thing as seriously as God does.

If it looks like a duck…so the saying goes. And this one’s a-quackin’ .

Because these people either are sincere (shudder) or put on a good, consistent show of sincerity, their descriptions of their insane lifestyle provides me–a kinky person–with a deliciously bizarre escapist sexual fantasy. Sure, it’s not that well-written but if it were, but that’s just as well because if the writers were skilled I wouldn’t be able to “believe” in it as much.

Also, it wouldn’t double as a comedy goldmine when I’m not turned on.