From FAForumite kungfu:
I’m getting hitched in a few months. I come from a largely fundamentalist baptist background but I’ve been an atheist for a number of years. My bride-to-be was raised Lutheran and while she has some fundies on her side, her immediate family is pretty laid back. She still holds onto her religion, but is very liberal and caught between worlds (as in, she just wants to make people happy and believe in a transcendant meaning to things).
There was some friction early on, but all sides are accepting of the fact that there will be religious compromise. We’ve found a really cool looking Lutheran church for the ceremony, and apparently the fact that it’s Lutheran (albeit a different sect than their own) won me some brownie points.
I have a pastor friend I still meet with regularly to discuss theological issues who agreed to do the wedding. He was the most liberal pastor I knew, and the most apt to work with me to provide a dogma-free ceremony.My question now is to ask for advice on the actual ceremony. Having lived in a very religious area, 99% of weddings I attend are littered with dogmatic preaching and benedictions, so I’m pretty ignorant about a more humanistic ceremony. I’m meeting with the pastor in a few weeks again and I want to bring some ideas to the table on how to make it as free of religion as possible. Does anyone have experience or ideas with different types of ceremonies, music, readings (poems?), or any other advice?
Your advice is appreciated.
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