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		<title>By: llewelly</title>
		<link>http://www.patheos.com/blogs/friendlyatheist/2008/07/30/why-do-you-hide-your-atheism/#comment-215147</link>
		<dc:creator>llewelly</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Mon, 04 Aug 2008 03:14:32 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Eliza:
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Guys - hold on a second - Noah-of-the-Bible would have been Jewish, not Christian. (Except, I guess, to Christians who extend honorary Christianity backward to Adam &amp; Eve, which may be more common than I like to think.)
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My apologies. I did not intend to imply that Noah was Christian. I said he was a figure of Christian mythology because he is in the sense that Christians inherited / plagiarized the myth from the Jews. Perhaps I should have said &#039;Old Testament mythology&#039;?</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Eliza:</p>
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Guys &#8211; hold on a second &#8211; Noah-of-the-Bible would have been Jewish, not Christian. (Except, I guess, to Christians who extend honorary Christianity backward to Adam &amp; Eve, which may be more common than I like to think.)
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<p>My apologies. I did not intend to imply that Noah was Christian. I said he was a figure of Christian mythology because he is in the sense that Christians inherited / plagiarized the myth from the Jews. Perhaps I should have said &#8216;Old Testament mythology&#8217;?</p>
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		<title>By: RobertP</title>
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		<dc:creator>RobertP</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Sun, 03 Aug 2008 08:42:06 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I&#039;ve been slowly coming out as an atheist.  I think I have been hesitant to tell some people because of how my parents reacted to my coming out as a gay man (it was a horrifically cliched event; filled with yelling and emotions, etc.).  My closest friends have known for years, but this past week I decided to make a push to be more open and honest about it with everyone in my life.  For the first stage, I posted a &quot;note&quot; on facebook explaining the basics of why I&#039;m an atheist / Bright / humanist (&lt;a href=&quot;http://www.atheistnexus.org/profiles/blog/show?id=2182797%3ABlogPost%3A60049&quot; rel=&quot;nofollow&quot;&gt;re-posted here at Atheist Nexus&lt;/a&gt;).  It has garnered a relatively positive reception, with very few friends saying &quot;Jesus still loves you!&quot;.  In fact, a couple of friends confided in me that they are atheists too and are comforted by my coming out.  :-)</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;ve been slowly coming out as an atheist.  I think I have been hesitant to tell some people because of how my parents reacted to my coming out as a gay man (it was a horrifically cliched event; filled with yelling and emotions, etc.).  My closest friends have known for years, but this past week I decided to make a push to be more open and honest about it with everyone in my life.  For the first stage, I posted a &#8220;note&#8221; on facebook explaining the basics of why I&#8217;m an atheist / Bright / humanist (<a href="http://www.atheistnexus.org/profiles/blog/show?id=2182797%3ABlogPost%3A60049" rel="nofollow">re-posted here at Atheist Nexus</a>).  It has garnered a relatively positive reception, with very few friends saying &#8220;Jesus still loves you!&#8221;.  In fact, a couple of friends confided in me that they are atheists too and are comforted by my coming out.  <img src='http://www.patheos.com/blogs/friendlyatheist/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':-)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
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		<title>By: Maria</title>
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		<dc:creator>Maria</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 01 Aug 2008 10:13:22 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I hide it b/c of all the grief I&#039;d get living with conservative religious people</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I hide it b/c of all the grief I&#8217;d get living with conservative religious people</p>
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		<title>By: AV</title>
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		<dc:creator>AV</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 01 Aug 2008 02:52:40 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I&#039;m an English teacher. Being openly atheist would narrow my job prospects significantly.

I don&#039;t like it, and I don&#039;t like the fact that the Australian government endorses discrimination against non-believers in partially taxpayer-funded religious schools (by not making the funding conditional upon the removal of discriminatory hiring policies). But there it is.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;m an English teacher. Being openly atheist would narrow my job prospects significantly.</p>
<p>I don&#8217;t like it, and I don&#8217;t like the fact that the Australian government endorses discrimination against non-believers in partially taxpayer-funded religious schools (by not making the funding conditional upon the removal of discriminatory hiring policies). But there it is.</p>
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		<title>By: Faithinate</title>
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		<dc:creator>Faithinate</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 01 Aug 2008 02:29:14 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>We&#039;re out to friends and family, but we hide it in general (and protect our identities on the internet) for one reason, and one reason only: the next time SurferJesus&#039; ex takes us to court for custody of our daughter, it will count against us.  We&#039;re bible belters and yeah, it WILL count against.  

Our daughter knows we don&#039;t believe in god/gods/whatever, but we don&#039;t really use the A word...knowing what we think is more important than what cubby we fit into.

That&#039;s about it really.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>We&#8217;re out to friends and family, but we hide it in general (and protect our identities on the internet) for one reason, and one reason only: the next time SurferJesus&#8217; ex takes us to court for custody of our daughter, it will count against us.  We&#8217;re bible belters and yeah, it WILL count against.  </p>
<p>Our daughter knows we don&#8217;t believe in god/gods/whatever, but we don&#8217;t really use the A word&#8230;knowing what we think is more important than what cubby we fit into.</p>
<p>That&#8217;s about it really.</p>
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		<title>By: lolol.</title>
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		<dc:creator>lolol.</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Fri, 01 Aug 2008 00:03:42 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>My friends know this because they&#039;re younger and they know I&#039;ll spit them if they try to push Christianity up my derriere. Oh, and they accept it better. :)

I&#039;m not a full-Atheist yet, so I guess I&#039;m Agnostic. I haven&#039;t told my family and my cousin thinks I&#039;m Agnostic-leaning-more-towards-Christianity (as in I still fully believe in God). I hesitate to tell them because..well I&#039;m not sure how to explain this.
They aren&#039;t total hard-core Catholics. I dont think alot of Asians are. But we never miss a Sunday church thing, and when we have family over, we usually have this long prayer thing so that my ancestors are sure to be in Heaven. And it&#039;s respectful. I don&#039;t want to tell them though, because I know they wouldn&#039;t accept it very well and might say things such as &quot;You&#039;re only a teenager, you don&#039;t know anything, God will punish you, etc.&quot; And I just don&#039;t have the courage to disappoint them.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My friends know this because they&#8217;re younger and they know I&#8217;ll spit them if they try to push Christianity up my derriere. Oh, and they accept it better. <img src='http://www.patheos.com/blogs/friendlyatheist/wp-includes/images/smilies/icon_smile.gif' alt=':)' class='wp-smiley' /> </p>
<p>I&#8217;m not a full-Atheist yet, so I guess I&#8217;m Agnostic. I haven&#8217;t told my family and my cousin thinks I&#8217;m Agnostic-leaning-more-towards-Christianity (as in I still fully believe in God). I hesitate to tell them because..well I&#8217;m not sure how to explain this.<br />
They aren&#8217;t total hard-core Catholics. I dont think alot of Asians are. But we never miss a Sunday church thing, and when we have family over, we usually have this long prayer thing so that my ancestors are sure to be in Heaven. And it&#8217;s respectful. I don&#8217;t want to tell them though, because I know they wouldn&#8217;t accept it very well and might say things such as &#8220;You&#8217;re only a teenager, you don&#8217;t know anything, God will punish you, etc.&#8221; And I just don&#8217;t have the courage to disappoint them.</p>
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		<title>By: Tanya</title>
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		<dc:creator>Tanya</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 31 Jul 2008 23:38:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>My grandparents are the only two people in my life that are unaware of my Atheism - they&#039;re both Christian fundamentalists and, while I&#039;ll admit my resistance to coming out to them is tinged by a bit of fear over their reaction, it&#039;s mostly rooted in the fact that they are both very, very old and I simply can&#039;t see the purpose in causing them such stress this late in their lives.

If asked I wouldn&#039;t lie to them, but I doubt they&#039;ll risk their comfort to query.


t</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>My grandparents are the only two people in my life that are unaware of my Atheism &#8211; they&#8217;re both Christian fundamentalists and, while I&#8217;ll admit my resistance to coming out to them is tinged by a bit of fear over their reaction, it&#8217;s mostly rooted in the fact that they are both very, very old and I simply can&#8217;t see the purpose in causing them such stress this late in their lives.</p>
<p>If asked I wouldn&#8217;t lie to them, but I doubt they&#8217;ll risk their comfort to query.</p>
<p>t</p>
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		<title>By: Kelly</title>
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		<dc:creator>Kelly</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 31 Jul 2008 20:21:46 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I&#039;m somewhat out. Most people online know, my siblings know. My inlaws and I don&#039;t really discuss it, but I think my husband referred to me as an agnostic when we met 10 years ago. Some of my real life friends know, others don&#039;t. The friends I spend time with the most now are a group of pretty strong Catholics (church every week, kids go to Catholic schools). I&#039;ve made comments such as &quot;I&#039;m not religious, but...&quot; but that&#039;s about as far as I&#039;ve gone. Part of it with me is my kids. I don&#039;t want my kids to be affected by my stance. I don&#039;t think this group of friends (we all have kids the same age) would kick us to the curb, but who knows. I&#039;m also my daughters Girl Scout leader, and I definitely haven&#039;t come out there. Unfortunately, Cincinnati is a pretty conservative area, and it&#039;s enough that I occasionally wear my Obama shirt out! I&#039;ll wear my liberalism on my sleeve (literally), but I&#039;m not ready to wear my atheism the same way.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I&#8217;m somewhat out. Most people online know, my siblings know. My inlaws and I don&#8217;t really discuss it, but I think my husband referred to me as an agnostic when we met 10 years ago. Some of my real life friends know, others don&#8217;t. The friends I spend time with the most now are a group of pretty strong Catholics (church every week, kids go to Catholic schools). I&#8217;ve made comments such as &#8220;I&#8217;m not religious, but&#8230;&#8221; but that&#8217;s about as far as I&#8217;ve gone. Part of it with me is my kids. I don&#8217;t want my kids to be affected by my stance. I don&#8217;t think this group of friends (we all have kids the same age) would kick us to the curb, but who knows. I&#8217;m also my daughters Girl Scout leader, and I definitely haven&#8217;t come out there. Unfortunately, Cincinnati is a pretty conservative area, and it&#8217;s enough that I occasionally wear my Obama shirt out! I&#8217;ll wear my liberalism on my sleeve (literally), but I&#8217;m not ready to wear my atheism the same way.</p>
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		<title>By: CHADMAC</title>
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		<dc:creator>CHADMAC</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 31 Jul 2008 19:37:18 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>I wouldn&#039;t say I hide my atheism at all - Since most, if not all, of my friends know that I am an atheist.  It is plastered all over my blog and is also on my Facebook and MySpace pages.  But I also don&#039;t go around telling everyone I meet about my religious views - Mainly because I don&#039;t like it when others do it to me.  If anyone asks for my opinion on religious matters, I will tell them I am an atheist.... Actually, I guess I tend to use the term &quot;non-religious&quot; rather than &quot;atheist&quot; in most face-to-face instances.  This is due to the negative connotations that many people associate with atheism.

There are a few cases where the subject of my non-belief never comes up.  First, I never mention my political and/or religious views when teaching since I see that as very inappropriate - especially since they have nothing to do with computer programming, robotics or control systems.

Second, I also never discuss religion in the workplace unless I know I am with like-minded individuals.  This is both because I know most of the people around me are religious and I also know I wouldn&#039;t like people to discuss their religious beliefs with me at work.

Finally, I have never and will never mention my atheism in front of my maternal grandparents.  I just see no reason to upset my 80+ year old grandparents by making them think I am going to hell.

In conclusion, if someone has a major problem with me being an atheist and that results in me losing a friend or a potential job opportunity, I won&#039;t be particularly upset.  The friend was obviously not a true friend and I probably wouldn&#039;t enjoy working somewhere that judges me based on my non-religious views.  

I shall now stop rambling......</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I wouldn&#8217;t say I hide my atheism at all &#8211; Since most, if not all, of my friends know that I am an atheist.  It is plastered all over my blog and is also on my Facebook and MySpace pages.  But I also don&#8217;t go around telling everyone I meet about my religious views &#8211; Mainly because I don&#8217;t like it when others do it to me.  If anyone asks for my opinion on religious matters, I will tell them I am an atheist&#8230;. Actually, I guess I tend to use the term &#8220;non-religious&#8221; rather than &#8220;atheist&#8221; in most face-to-face instances.  This is due to the negative connotations that many people associate with atheism.</p>
<p>There are a few cases where the subject of my non-belief never comes up.  First, I never mention my political and/or religious views when teaching since I see that as very inappropriate &#8211; especially since they have nothing to do with computer programming, robotics or control systems.</p>
<p>Second, I also never discuss religion in the workplace unless I know I am with like-minded individuals.  This is both because I know most of the people around me are religious and I also know I wouldn&#8217;t like people to discuss their religious beliefs with me at work.</p>
<p>Finally, I have never and will never mention my atheism in front of my maternal grandparents.  I just see no reason to upset my 80+ year old grandparents by making them think I am going to hell.</p>
<p>In conclusion, if someone has a major problem with me being an atheist and that results in me losing a friend or a potential job opportunity, I won&#8217;t be particularly upset.  The friend was obviously not a true friend and I probably wouldn&#8217;t enjoy working somewhere that judges me based on my non-religious views.  </p>
<p>I shall now stop rambling&#8230;&#8230;</p>
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		<title>By: Amy Black</title>
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		<dc:creator>Amy Black</dc:creator>
		<pubDate>Thu, 31 Jul 2008 19:02:19 +0000</pubDate>
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		<description>Great question!
I hid my atheism from my immediate family as long as I could, which was about 5 months. The intense stress of living two lives landed me in the hospital and that was my wake-up call that hiding it wasn&#039;t worth the stress.

Most of my friends knew and were rooting for me by the time I told my family. It&#039;s a source of shame for my mom. I doubt she has even told her friends. She&#039;s devestated because she thinks I&#039;m gong to hell. My friends, even my christian friends, and I openly discuss my atheism with no problem. 

My immediate family prefers not to talk about it ever and we have an agreement not to let my extended family find out. There&#039;s no reason to give my grandparents a heart attack and add stress to their lives when they only have a maximum of 20 years left anyway.</description>
		<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Great question!<br />
I hid my atheism from my immediate family as long as I could, which was about 5 months. The intense stress of living two lives landed me in the hospital and that was my wake-up call that hiding it wasn&#8217;t worth the stress.</p>
<p>Most of my friends knew and were rooting for me by the time I told my family. It&#8217;s a source of shame for my mom. I doubt she has even told her friends. She&#8217;s devestated because she thinks I&#8217;m gong to hell. My friends, even my christian friends, and I openly discuss my atheism with no problem. </p>
<p>My immediate family prefers not to talk about it ever and we have an agreement not to let my extended family find out. There&#8217;s no reason to give my grandparents a heart attack and add stress to their lives when they only have a maximum of 20 years left anyway.</p>
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