Comments on: How Much Sex Do Christians Need?

By: Roy

Roy — Tue, 24 Feb 2009 21:29:27 +0000

People don’t think of this because it is so obvious and has been indoctrinated into them by the church. The main man God, no wife, girlfriend, boyfriend. Jesus Christ no wife, girlfriend, boyfriend. Mary had an immaculate conception. Think about it people the religion is completely anti sex and out there. If we logically examined these beliefs of organized religion I think we would say: “This stuff is nuts”

By: sohy

sohy — Thu, 20 Nov 2008 00:46:03 +0000

Hey! I say they should go for it, even if they had to get the idea from the preacher. If Christians got laid more often, they might be easier to have around.

By: Don Pope

Don Pope — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 22:00:31 +0000

Now…how can I convince my wife to try this?

By: Julie Marie

Julie Marie — Wed, 19 Nov 2008 05:11:35 +0000

I remember reading about this a little while ago. It struck me as a not so great idea then too.

Granted, once kids arrive, sex doesn’t “just happen.” At least, not often enough. One has to plan. Leave time. Be flexible. (punkin head falls asleep on the couch unexpectedly? forget finishing painting the trimwork and run upstairs… Little darlin’ bursts into the house after only playing with his friends for 15 minutes? woops – reschedule for later in the evening…)

Still there’s a difference between leaving time open and being flexible and mandating. I remember when hubby #1 and I were trying to conceive. Our intimacy was ruled by the calendar, and it took something that had been fun and made it into another chore to check off the list. Can’t help but think the 7 day challenge would have the same effect. But at least there is a terminal point, after which you can go back to whatever works for you as a couple.

And can you imagine if your relationship was in one of the not-so-hot phases? A time when you’d just as soon be left alone? Having my pastor throw out a challenge like this would just make me feel that much more inadequate. Not only do you have to emote happy happy joy joy because of the love of Christ in your life, now you have to fake your sex drive too.

I ran into an old friend a few weeks ago. He’s just leaving the church I left 2 years ago. One of his big beefs was the “fake it ’till you make it” advice given to married couples having difficulties. “Act your way into a feeling” rather than “Feel your way into an action”.

By: Twice

Twice — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 20:07:56 +0000

A non-religious book about 101 days of marital sex is “Just Do It” by Douglas Brown. The couple embarked on it as a project and decided to experiment with, um, marital aids, and also work out, dress nicely for one another and fix up their bedroom as a “sex den”. It was a fun read and thought-provoking. And as a bonus: not motivated by religion.

By: andyinsdca

andyinsdca — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 15:55:53 +0000

30 “straight” days? hehehe…

By: erock

erock — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 06:26:53 +0000

The whole thing, from both churches, has nothing to do with improving marriage or intimacy or reclaiming sex for married couples.
It’s a membership drive. It is a ploy by the preachers to increase the size of the flock. How many pregnancies will result from everyone in the congregation having sex every day for a month? Every woman in the church will have sex before, during, and after at least one ovulation.

By: Gabriel

Gabriel — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 02:48:51 +0000

“God says sex should be between a married man and a woman,” Young said. “I think it’s one of the greatest things you can do for your kids because so goes the marriage, so goes the family.”

I am pretty sure that the preacher didn’t mean it but it sounds like incest and child molesting.

By: Gabriel

Gabriel — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 02:45:16 +0000

I am very much in favor of pre-marital sex. Especially since there is no such thing as post-marital sex. That is a myth. Just like god, santa clause and the easter bunny. You want to encourage abstinence, put on a wedding ring.

By: Beijingrrl

Beijingrrl — Sat, 15 Nov 2008 01:26:48 +0000

For the record, my 39-year-old husband and I have sex almost every day despite having 2 small children, so for some people it’s great. Of course, when we first met at 18, we had sex up to 5 times a day, so things do tend to slow down over the course of a relationship.

I think this could be an interesting experiment for people if the pastor also asked them to consider how they define sex. Is sex penetration only or other loving, sensual acts which bring pleasure to a couple?

I actually have no problem with the pastor suggesting this. It doesn’t sound like he’s asking people to make a pledge or anything, but just to try it. I think the world would be a much better place if we all got laid a little more. It’s much better to focusing on love than on hate.