A question posed to advice columnist Amy Dickinson today deals with an atheist, her semi-religious boyfriend, and her boyfriend’s more-religious family.
The setup is this: The (atheist) girl visited her boyfriend’s (religious) family for dinner. The family says grace before meals, so this was done. No big deal.
Now, the (atheist) girl wants her boyfriend’s family to join her own for a Christmas dinner:
My mother and I want to invite Brian and his family over for Christmas dinner, but when we sit down to eat, prayers for grace will likely not be said because this is simply not our tradition, especially when nearly everyone in my family does not believe in God. Because of this, I am worried that we will offend his parents and his elderly grandmother.
Does something need to be said, or should we just carry on as usual? If we don’t say grace, Brian’s family may be offended. If we do say grace, my family will most likely feel uncomfortable and could be offended. What would be the proper procedure here?
What would you advise?
After you think about it, you can read what Amy suggested to the girl.
Do you think Amy got it right or wrong?