Reader Claudia‘s friends are married and they just had their first child. The mom is a “mild Catholic” — the kind who does weddings, First Communions, funerals, and not much else — and the dad is an atheist.
They made an agreement I don’t think a lot of atheists would agree to: No church wedding, but the child gets raised nominally religious.
The baptism is coming up. It’s surely the first in a line of many religious events in this child’s life.
It occurs to me that the end result is that the mother is left in charge of symbolic moments without the fathers own values being reflected.
I think it would be nice if, in addition to the agreed upon Catholic ceremonies, the father could have something personal to contribute to these moments in his son’s life.
In this sort of atheist/theist relationship, what sorts of milestones can an atheist bring to the table?