Let’s say you’re married and male. I understand it might look a bit suspicious if you’re hanging out with single women… but hopefully, there’s some trust built into your relationship and you’re not cheating on your wife.
Laura has a story dealing with that situation that I find appalling.
The setup is that she worked at a Christian summer camp several years back — Joel was one of her co-workers and Corey was her boss. It was late, very dark, and a long walk back to the cabins. As it turned out, Corey the Christian Boss had a car, but it could only hold one other passenger…
How did he handle the situation?
Let’s just say it involves the line, “… it would be inappropriate for me to take you back since I am married and you are a female, so I am going to have to take Joel instead.”
You can read the full story here.
I don’t get this. Superficially, I understand it may look compromising… but to whom? Surely not the husband, who is actually doing someone a favor. Not to the wife, who (if she found out) would get an explanation and hopefully trusts her husband to be honest about these things. Not to their god, who would presumably know everybody’s intentions.Not that there’s any underlying sexual tension in this story, but seriously, whatever happened to self-control? Are Christians like the ones in this story incapable of this?
Laura has come to a conclusion about all this:
I don’t think that would ever happen in a non-religious crowd. It hasn’t so far. Heck, I don’t think that would even happen in a moderately religious crowd. The extent some people go to enforce their own legalistic, Pharisaical rules is completely ridiculous — and dangerous…
It’s strange because one of the attractions of Christian fundamentalism is supposed to be the way men are thoughtful toward women because they don’t have to be tied down by the feminist movement. It’s so strange how the opposite seems to be true: the nonreligious men I have met seem to simply use common sense. Women are capable, but you don’t strand them in the middle of nowhere in the middle of the night, either.
(via The Redheaded Skeptic)