Comments on: Why I’m Having an Abortion

By: Beckyrob

Beckyrob — Mon, 09 Apr 2012 02:07:00 +0000

All children should be wanted. No woman should be forced into bearing a child against her will. To make her, or give her no choice is barbaric and backward. Nobody should be made to bear a child that they don’t feel 100% devoted to. This is the real world. There are many people alive now who were not wanted and live in misery and deprivation (material/emotional) because of it. This is not an ideal world, and the truth is there is often no-one there to pick up the pieces for a woman stuck raising an unplanned child.

Re: disability – some people at some points in their life feel able to cope & care for a disabled child. Some, after soul-searching, don’t feel able to cope. Some get no warning and muddle through, some struggle and suffer but try to keep going and do what’s best. Some feel legitimately that they have done it once but couldn’t go through it again, as much for the sake of the child they already have as anything else.

Different situations happen to different women at different points in their life, and frankly it is no one else’s right but theirs to decide what is best. To take their decision away is brutal, misogynistic, backward, dangerous, childish, bullying and ridiculous.

By: Kerry54

Kerry54 — Thu, 15 Mar 2012 20:49:00 +0000

Believe me, it may take time but you will survive this. Keep your head up.

By: maggie

maggie — Wed, 14 Mar 2012 19:24:00 +0000

i’m sorry you’re imprisoned by dogma. i was once myself. i hope you find your way out of the haze.

By: Celestej123

Celestej123 — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 08:22:00 +0000

Really? It’s not? So not wanting to be a parent is not a good reason to decide not to be one?

By: Celestej123

Celestej123 — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 08:20:00 +0000

Paladin, on the flipside of your staunch declaration that abortio is morally wrong, do you think having a child you don’t want and being a horrible parent is morally wrong?

By: BabyKiller1223

BabyKiller1223 — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 21:51:00 +0000

@ Jack Then maybe you can adopt a Black crack baby, or better yet, have a Black or Hispanic fetus implanted in your wife. yeah, we won’t see you doing THAT though will we? What a woman does with her body is NONE of your business. When you know what it’s like to be pregnant, or have labor pains, or have to raise children on Welfare, then you can say something, otherwise shut up…nobody cares about you opinion.

By: Jacksmith

Jacksmith — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 15:59:00 +0000

You were culpably negligent in the conception of your child. What kind of excuse is ” we weren’t using condoms as regularly as I was pretending to myself we were”? Isn’t that the kind of irrationality concerning beliefs that you would otherwise condemn in the religious? And then you claim that you don’t need to justify having an abortion at all. You don’t let religious persons get away with that. Not only were you culpably negligent for the life you created and also culpable in destroying it, but you’ve revealed your hypocrisy as well.

By: supervondi

supervondi — Thu, 03 Mar 2011 10:56:11 +0000

Angie,

I’m sorry to hear about what you went through.

Especially for the death of your unborn child.

On a lesser note, I’m sorry to hear (based on reading most of the comments here) that this is primarily an issue about people poking in their noses in someone’s private business when we speak for life. I’m sorry how political correctness and going out of our way not offend others are the most important things.

Just like my disgust towards pedophilia has nothing to do with me merely “sticking my nose where it doesn’t belong”, my repulsion towards abortion is a repulsion towards death, fear and selfishness.

We live in a world where goodness is seen as relative, especially when we find ourselves inconvenienced.

I know I’ll be unpopular for saying this but this is not my opinion: Abortion is murder.
We have absolutely no idea when a fetus is truly human. How arrogant for us to say that we do. How terribly risky to assume the unborn children have no souls & are not even human. Human life is precious. But more so a human soul.

I know you don’t believe in souls. But how unfortunate that disbelieving in something won’t erase its existence.

I pray you will be forgiven. I don’t hate you for what you’ve done, not at all. I’m not one of those. I am very sad for you and I sincerely hope you won’t find the truth in these words when it’s all too late.

~Much love from a concerned unknown friend~

By: supervondi

supervondi — Thu, 03 Mar 2011 10:55:22 +0000

I’m also quite surprised that most pro-life use the “guilt” aspect and that pro-choice think,since not all women who had abortions feel guilty, then that just validates abortion.

Most of the worst serial killers didn’t feel guilt.
Guilt is overrated.
Guilt can be numbed.
Guilt is by no means a proper rule of measure.

How subjective morals would be if feelings of guilt were valid measures.

By: Lucy G

Lucy G — Sun, 12 Dec 2010 20:59:13 +0000

I’m not going to talk about the abortion issue here. Abortion is an issue with a lot of gray area, and I appreciate Angie’s willingness to have open, personal dialogue about the issue.

However, the thing that concerns me about her post was the insinuation that she wouldn’t want to have a child with CF. As a young, 18-year-old woman with CF, I would like to say that I’m glad I wasn’t aborted. My heart goes out to the people on this forum who say they wish they’d never been born; that wasn’t my experience.

Having CF or other disabilities doesn’t mark you for a life of pain and misery. My life has been pretty fun. I have a lot of friends, and a brother who’s also a best friend. Yes, some stuff was totally sh*tty, but, it seems, so are most people’s lives. No one gets through life without a little trauma, and on the whole, a disabled person is a person just as capable of having a fulfilling life as anyone else.