Comments on: Why I’m Having an Abortion

By: Celestej123

Celestej123 — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 08:22:00 +0000

Really? It’s not? So not wanting to be a parent is not a good reason to decide not to be one?

By: Celestej123

Celestej123 — Tue, 10 Jan 2012 08:20:00 +0000

Paladin, on the flipside of your staunch declaration that abortio is morally wrong, do you think having a child you don’t want and being a horrible parent is morally wrong?

By: BabyKiller1223

BabyKiller1223 — Thu, 08 Dec 2011 21:51:00 +0000

@ Jack Then maybe you can adopt a Black crack baby, or better yet, have a Black or Hispanic fetus implanted in your wife. yeah, we won’t see you doing THAT though will we? What a woman does with her body is NONE of your business. When you know what it’s like to be pregnant, or have labor pains, or have to raise children on Welfare, then you can say something, otherwise shut up…nobody cares about you opinion.

By: Jacksmith

Jacksmith — Wed, 30 Nov 2011 15:59:00 +0000

You were culpably negligent in the conception of your child. What kind of excuse is ” we weren’t using condoms as regularly as I was pretending to myself we were”? Isn’t that the kind of irrationality concerning beliefs that you would otherwise condemn in the religious? And then you claim that you don’t need to justify having an abortion at all. You don’t let religious persons get away with that. Not only were you culpably negligent for the life you created and also culpable in destroying it, but you’ve revealed your hypocrisy as well.

By: supervondi

supervondi — Thu, 03 Mar 2011 10:56:11 +0000

Angie,

I’m sorry to hear about what you went through.

Especially for the death of your unborn child.

On a lesser note, I’m sorry to hear (based on reading most of the comments here) that this is primarily an issue about people poking in their noses in someone’s private business when we speak for life. I’m sorry how political correctness and going out of our way not offend others are the most important things.

Just like my disgust towards pedophilia has nothing to do with me merely “sticking my nose where it doesn’t belong”, my repulsion towards abortion is a repulsion towards death, fear and selfishness.

We live in a world where goodness is seen as relative, especially when we find ourselves inconvenienced.

I know I’ll be unpopular for saying this but this is not my opinion: Abortion is murder.
We have absolutely no idea when a fetus is truly human. How arrogant for us to say that we do. How terribly risky to assume the unborn children have no souls & are not even human. Human life is precious. But more so a human soul.

I know you don’t believe in souls. But how unfortunate that disbelieving in something won’t erase its existence.

I pray you will be forgiven. I don’t hate you for what you’ve done, not at all. I’m not one of those. I am very sad for you and I sincerely hope you won’t find the truth in these words when it’s all too late.

~Much love from a concerned unknown friend~

By: supervondi

supervondi — Thu, 03 Mar 2011 10:55:22 +0000

I’m also quite surprised that most pro-life use the “guilt” aspect and that pro-choice think,since not all women who had abortions feel guilty, then that just validates abortion.

Most of the worst serial killers didn’t feel guilt.
Guilt is overrated.
Guilt can be numbed.
Guilt is by no means a proper rule of measure.

How subjective morals would be if feelings of guilt were valid measures.

By: Lucy G

Lucy G — Sun, 12 Dec 2010 20:59:13 +0000

I’m not going to talk about the abortion issue here. Abortion is an issue with a lot of gray area, and I appreciate Angie’s willingness to have open, personal dialogue about the issue.

However, the thing that concerns me about her post was the insinuation that she wouldn’t want to have a child with CF. As a young, 18-year-old woman with CF, I would like to say that I’m glad I wasn’t aborted. My heart goes out to the people on this forum who say they wish they’d never been born; that wasn’t my experience.

Having CF or other disabilities doesn’t mark you for a life of pain and misery. My life has been pretty fun. I have a lot of friends, and a brother who’s also a best friend. Yes, some stuff was totally sh*tty, but, it seems, so are most people’s lives. No one gets through life without a little trauma, and on the whole, a disabled person is a person just as capable of having a fulfilling life as anyone else.

By: Amber

Amber — Sat, 04 Dec 2010 14:19:09 +0000

I am in the league of women who are so “vile” as to have had not one, but two abortions. I had a broken condom situation years ago before Plan B was on the market. I was young, unmarried, a poor college student, and nowhere ready to be a mother. That abortion was SUCH a relief! Then, not terribly long ago, I had a situation similar to the author: my IUD had come out, and although my husband and I weren’t totally opposed to having another baby, not only is the timing terrible for our finances, I am also on some fairly heavy-duty meds for a herniated disc. Finding out you are pregnant when you are ten weeks along and knowing that you took pain pills you never would have touched if you knew you were pregnant.. yeah, well, it was enough to send me to the clinic.

And you know what? I don’t feel guilty about either of them! A little sad, sure, but I am not tortured by guilt at all. Why should I be? I am a mother to two lovely, sweet fun-loving and beautiful girls. Any mom knows that part of motherhood also means you have to look out for yourself (so that you can CONTINUE to be a great mom!) and I don’t fault the author one bit for considering the needs of her existing child. Of course I am going to weigh the needs of my girls!

I had two abortions. I am not tortured by my choices, and hey, I might even plan another child in the next year or two. And do it RIGHT. Because that is my right.

By: EIAL

EIAL — Tue, 09 Nov 2010 01:59:15 +0000

Abortion should be getting rid-off unwanted pregnancy, which is dangerous to the woman if she wishes and not giving the rights to women to be killing innocent life. However, the right of unborn babies is being denied. It better to avoid being pregnant than to abort the life that comes out of it. Being pro life is not about being theist or atheist, but all about sanctity of life. If a woman can have the right to abort, why is it a crime if she chooses to kill her 6months baby? Why abort?

By: simplyhere

simplyhere — Tue, 16 Mar 2010 22:22:16 +0000

I am married with two kids and I had an abortion a month ago. I cannot forgive myself and I am wanting to leave a marriage because of it.
Is my guilt due to killing a life or the fundies telling me I should feel this way? If it was just a mass of cells then why do women, such as myself, feel like hell for our decisions? We are told that this decision will turn us into bad wives, bad mothers to our existing children and bad mothers for our future children and I believe that is why many women, including myself, carry guilt around for a lifetime. We are TOLD that we will be horribile women after and that is the reason why we may feel this way. I do not know, but that is all I am understanding through reading every article I can about moving forward.

So, it is a relief to see that a woman can move on without the guilt, shame and mental issues after. I just hope to be one of them.