For ten years when he was younger, reader Brody gave a tithe — 10% of every gift and paycheck went directly back to his church. Since he was in his teens most of that time, that amounted to only one or two thousand dollars. But still, that’s money that could have been better used elsewhere.
Brody is now 30 and he remembers something his pastor said to him when he went to church:
Our pastor said that everything was given by god, and anything entrusted back to him will result in blessings. He was so sure of this, he guaranteed it. He said that if you tithe faithfully, and ever feel that your life has not been blessed in return, the church will refund the money.
Worst. Marketing. Idea. Ever.
Not that Brody’s life is bad, but we know the church and belief in a god had nothing to do with that.
So Brody is wondering what he should do:
I’m sure it wouldn’t really lead to a check from the church, but just asking for it could be a symbolic rejection of the superstition and dogma I was taught.
On the other hand, my parents are still very active in the church and might be hurt by the circumstances (both emotionally and socially, within the church).
What would you advise?