Jane and her husband from Oregon don’t see their extended family very much, but when they do, it seems like a group prayer (say, before dinner) is always involved.
Jane’s not hiding her atheism — she’ll answer honestly if questioned about it — but that doesn’t remove her from the group prayer situation.
What’s the best course of action?
At public events, I just stand off to the side during the prayer, and no one cares. At Girl Scouts, I don’t say God during the promise, and no one seems to care. But with the family — what’s the best moment to say it’s not appropriate for us to participate in the big group prayer?
Do you leave the room while others pray? Stand off to the side? Hold hands and just look around while others pray?
Can you do anything that won’t offend the family?