I‘m getting some wonderful wedding vows sent to me from a lot of atheists. I’ll post those soon.
On a related note, one reader has a couple questions about his upcoming wedding that some of you may be able to help with:
… we live in the Pittsburgh area and while we’ve found a banquet hall to hold our reception we’ve run into difficulties finding an appropriate ceremony venue. We were hoping that someone on your site might have some suggestions on where we could look. We’re looking for an indoors venue that feels formal.
Couple of caveats:
We tried the UU church in the area. It was gorgeous but our religious families were very upset at what they felt was a mockery of a “real” church. Being as we can have a secular wedding elsewhere without offense, there wasn’t any reason to cause a division.
Neither of us would mind having the ceremony in a Christian (or otherwise) church if we could just use the building. I think this would be especially cool since it would show real tolerance on everyone’s part. Unfortunately we don’t know of any churches that don’t insist on doing things their way.We are planning on having my friend officiate the ceremony if that matters. This is an interesting story in itself actually. After researching online ordination by something like Universal Life Ministries we found that such marriages are sometimes ruled non-binding. A trip to the courthouse to speak to the dept that issues marriage license didn’t help; they refuse to say whether or not the marriage would be valid. The only legal solution we could come up with that didn’t require spending a lot on a lawyer was to just go to a Justice of Peace the day before.
Anyone have ideas about location?
And what are the rules about who can officiate the wedding? Are Pennsylvania’s rules the same as everywhere else?