What She Lost with an Atheist Husband

Christian Alise Wright (who has written guest posts on the site before) explains how her husband’s atheism caused her to lose a few things… and why she’s better off because of it:

My assumptions about what atheists think about Christians.

Obviously I don’t know all of the atheists in the world, but my interactions with the bulk of the atheists that I’ve met online and those I’ve met in person through Jason have pretty much shattered how I assumed that group felt about Christians. I thought that atheists believed that all Christians were stupid; most simply feel that Christians are wrong. I thought that atheists hated Christians; most don’t have any problem with Christians. I thought that atheists were angry; most are considerably more laid back than some of my evangelical friends. Over and over I’ve found that my assumptions keep being proved wrong and are slowly disappearing.

That’s only the first item. You can (and should) check out the rest of her list here.

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  • http://twitter.com/TychaBrahe TychaBrahe

    I’ll bet you $100 that in five years that woman is either an atheist or is practicing the Christian religion in name only (going to church but not believing).

    • Ndonnan

      Ha, if i was a gambling man ide take that bet.I think he will find true faith and hes only lost religion.People who are brought up to believe all that they were taught is absolute truth,then find its not sometimes lose trust in the rest,but people like Alise who isnt afraid to question those teachings will KNOW why she believes what she does,and wont be shaken.We are all on a journey,enjoy the ride.

      • http://twitter.com/blamer ɹǝɯɐןq

        Yes, realising that well-meaning Christian teachers are in fact non-trivially misleading their congregation (about earthy matters, and potentially the Divine) needn’t necessarily undermine one’s personal opinion about the historicity of the character in Genesis.

    • Pseudonym

      Were I not a Methodist, I’d also take that bet, provided that we can agree on a definition of what it means to “[practise] the Christian religion in name only”. I suspect we wouldn’t agree on that, because I disagree that “different beliefs” is the same thing as “disbelief”.

  • scinquiry

    More evidence that being a dick is not a convincing tact. More so, even more evidence that being open about our atheism and disproving preconceived notions about who we are is more beneficial than antagonism.

    • http://twitter.com/blamer ɹǝɯɐןq

      No no no, you’re counting the hits and ignoring the misses. Confirmation bias. Further research required.

    • compl3x

       Yeah, but sometimes there is no alternative to being a bit dickish and hostile to a true believer. I hate when religious people I know start a conversation about belief/unbelief, usually using woefully ignorant stereotypes and strawmen concerning atheism, and then wish to cease the discussion when you corner them logically.

      It’s fun to wipe the smug look of superiority off of their face when you’ve easily pointed out a rather gaping flaw in their reasoning.

      The problem with the idea that atheists hate Xtians and think they’re stupid is the fact this a belief Xtians created themselves. Xtians with a persecution complex think when you disagree with them or criticise their ideology that is equal to hating them or thinking they are dumb. Sure, idiots on the internet are cruel and hateful, but hell, the internet is full of those kinds of dicks from all sides. One should never use experiences online as a way to gauge how a group behaves in general.

      General rule of thumb: I have issues with the belief, not the believer.

      • Ken

        This is a problem when there are no longer “differences of opinion.”  While I may be willing to simply walk away from a discussion with the intention of simply never raising a topic again, I find my opposite number treating me as a pariah, condemned to hell.  On top of that, they are personally offended that I have “attacked” them and their religion, and that I am some kind of bigot and am victimizing them for simply disagreeing with their opinion of what somebody said God said 2,000 years ago.

        I’m trying to pick my battles these days, and simply let some things pass. I can state an opinion, but I don’t feel compelled to try to convince those who cannot hear counterarguments.  

        • Ndonnan

          Totally agree with you Ken,except from a Christian perspective.All that you describe has been my experience here,which i approach with the same way as you do. 

  • Graham Martin-Royle

    Now all she needs to do is lose her religion.

  • Dawn.CO

    I commend her for her open mind. I have been reading this site for about year and you all have opened my eyes and helped me question a few things. I still consider myself a person of faith, but a MUCH more opened minded one.
    Thanks

    • http://gloomcookie613.tumblr.com GloomCookie613

      Eh, nobody’s perfect. ;D

      Glad to have you around here. Open minds are a beautiful thing. :) I commend you for expanding yours.


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